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extremely frusterating end to a very serious relasonship...HELP

So here is the jist of my story I had been dating the girl i meet in colorado for 9 months we decided to move out east to pa so she could take over her family's business and i could continue my firefighting career out east. So we packed up and drove out east. We get here and things got hard. new place,people,area,no family,no friends, for me anyways. So lets go back a few years i was diagnoised with adhd when i was 7 and put on ridlin for a few years. I was in an IEP class all through school. (individual education plan).

I Can't stop being nasty

I have been married for 3 months, before we were married my wife and I were together for 4 years, The problem is that i can't stop being nasty to her and i feel ashamed and disgusted at myself for the things i say to her, I love her so much and don't know why i do it but if i have a bad day or something i just take it out on her and when we argue (usualy she starts an argument over something i haven't done) it always escalates into a huge fight and i say some aweful things, then afterwards i regret it and think there was no need for any of it to have happened.

Depression

My boyfriend has ADHD. We have been together for several months and he was open about his ADHD from the beginning. I decided to educate myself as much as possible in order to understand him. In general I think we have a very good and loving relationship - he is one of sweetest, gentlest, funniest people i know. He has also always been very open about the painful childhood he had, as well as unhealthy relationships before he met me. The issue now is that I'm discovering these past experiences effect him more than he wants to admit.

ADD and divorce

New here. My ADD husband of almost a year just left me because I am "mistreating" him by yelling at him all the time. He says my tone of voice is always confrontational and I "intimidate" him and he is afraid to approach me and communicate with me. From all I know about ADD, these are problems stemming from his disability, not mine. I am constantly frustrated with him at home because he cannot keep track of anything, i handle the bills, the kids schedule, and constantly have to keep an eye on finances as he is horrible with them.

Everything I say is wrong

I AM A WIFE OF 4 YRS TO A MAN WHOM HAS EVERY SYMPTOM OF ADHD.  WHEN WE MET I COULDN'T ASK FOR A BETTER PERSON OR FRIEND TO MY 3 KIDS FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE.  I COULDN'T ASK FOR MORE.  I AM ALSO A MOTHER OF A CHILD WHO HAS ADHD. WHEN WE GOT MARRIED THE FIRST COUPLE OF YRS WERE GREAT. THEN AFTER THAT EVERYTHING I THOUGHT WE WORKED FOR HAS JUST FALLING DOWN HILL. OUR ARGUEMENTS ARE ALOT MORE FREQUENT. WHEN I TRY TO DISCUSS THINGS WITH HIM HE GETS MAD AND TELLS ME ALL I WANT TO DO IS MAKE HIM MAD OR FUSSING FOR NO REASON.

adhd and sex/relasonships

So as a 23 year old male with ADHD i read some of these posts and notice that it seems some ADHD men have a low sex drive. Here is a question i have i have a very very high sex drive. i know im a 23 year old male but. My sex drive is defenitally above average to the point of annoyence. And my poor wife thinks its unbeliveable and is not sure what to do about it. i was diagnosed with ADHD when i was 8 i was on ridlin for years and in my teen years 18 i tried straterra. i stoped and for the past few years have told my self i have growen out of ADHD.

Resources in Germany?

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Hi.  I'm married to a 30 year old man who has been diagnosed with depression and ADD.  We live in Germany; he's a German citizen and I'm from the U.S.  We've known each other three years and been married for two, and we have a really strong relationship, though of course the ADD makes things interesting at times.

 

OMG! I feel like a dirty old penny.

Here we go.  I'm still newly married (I guess), just over one year.  My husband is a good man, but COMPLETELY inattentive when he wants to be.  This site has made me step back and wonder, for the first time in a little while, if it's just the ADD but good Lord I am about to lose it!  We work complete opposite schedules, so on Friday and Saturday nights, I generally stay up as long as it takes to wait for him.  Last night, I passed out on the couch while he was out on his "new adventure".  He's building a blind in a tree right now, with his brother, so last night he decided to go outside (ye

Support for non-add spouse

In seeing a lot of frustration throughout the comments....I thought it might be good to hear some thoughts from people on what they can do as the non-add partner,to help allieviate the frustrations we experience with the ADD partner.There is a lot on certain situations or how to help the ADD person,but how about personal coping mechanisms for peace.Not anything about negatives or positives of ADD,but more of a personal approach in handling the emotional part of it.I realize how easy it is to get caught up in changing/helping/mothering/nagging/preaching,etc,etc towards the ADD person.Along w

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