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I truly have come to the end of my rope.

I have tried for seven years to get my husband to seek help for his ADD.  Despite a psychiatrit's diagnosis, he believes he is "managing " just fine.  I have tried the soft sell.  I have tried the hard sell.  I have tried the ultimatum.  I was diagnosed with ADD 5 years ago and have done pretty well on medication along with therapy.  My husband says, "Just because you have ADD, doesn't mean that I do."

Melissa Just a thought.  I know that this is a forum for adults but I was wondering if because this forum is so helpful for adults could you have a forum for children of Adhd. I have a son with Adhd/Odd and I think his older brother had a mild case of Adhd. I think it would be so helpful as I have been searching for a forum and not really finding something useful. Any suggestions??? life with a special needs kid can be hard as well. Thanks for any help....

We're a blended family. My partner with ADD and his two girls (12 and 17) and me and my son (14) and daughter (16) moved in together about 6 months ago. The children get on really well, we all do. Lately though my partner has been very strict on my son - and is driving my son crazy - he has very high expectations of my son and my son can't do eneough to please him. My son up until now has done everything he has been able to to be understanding about my partner's ADD, but he has had enough and wants to move out.

This post is intended as a response to a post by "Tom T", in which an ADHD husband is confused about why his wife has left him.  It is also addressed to all the ADHD spouses who still remain clueless about the impacts of the ADHD on their relationships, and are inadvertently driving their spouses to leave them.  Tom is confused by his wife's leaving because asserts he is a good person and thought the marriage was good.

To tom:

I am new to this site and am wavering between relief (that I'm not the only one going through this and that I'm NOT crazy) and despair (that people with many more years of marriage under their belts are continuing to struggle).

Can anyone recommend a reasonably affordable coach? My husband is doing a lot of that "trying but not changing" stuff that Melissa talked about recently. I think coaching would help a lot, and my husband agrees - but keeps balking at the price. Phone and email contact would be fine - ideal, actually.

My husband has begun the process of getting a diagnosis. I'm a little confused and would love some enlightenment. His primary care physician saw him, then asked to also see me. After asking a lot of questions, he said he didn't have a problem putting him on a low dose of ritalin and checking back in 4 weeks.

I've just recently come to terms with the fact that I have ADD.  My oldest son was diagnosed with it a few years ago and ever since then, i knew I had it too.  I never had those thoughts confirmed until I started seeing a therapist to deal with my depression.  I had seen a therapist before who diagnosed me with chronic depression and generalized anxiety disorder and I started taking Celexa.  That ended up being changed to Lexapro.  Anyway, after seeing my new therapist for a while, she said I had ADD and we determined the Lexapro wasn't working so had my medicine changed to Wellbutrin becau

If your spouse does something really dumb because of his/her ADD, can we expect them to be responsible to repair the damage, or should we just "suck it up" like we do everything else?

Like Vivi, I started my initial post as a continuation to an existing thread...sorry.  I have spent the last day and a half reading as many posts as I could on this site.  I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this site.  Finally, for the first time in 18 years, I feel like I am not crazy.  People who are not living with an ADD spouse just can not comprehend what life is like, and how his condition affects literally EVERY  aspect of our lives.  I am lucky that my husband is a good person, a kind person, a loving person who is completely committed to me and our 4 children.  He tells me he l