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Hi. I'm new to the site and am looking for some help. This may be a long post! My husband informed me 4 weeks ago that he wants a divorce. There is a lot of reasons why but since he's told me this I've been thinking a lot about our marriage and what went wrong. Something that was there from the beginning was my husbands strange behavior. We often joked he had ADD but I didn't know enough about it to really know for sure if that is what he had. I eventually chaulked it up as who he was and tried to deal with him the best I could.

I'm a 37 year old stay-at-home Mom with ADD.  Just diagnosed about a year and a half ago.  I just started taking Adderall XR a few weeks ago.  But, I also have high anxiety whether it's social, general or having a panic attack when I'm driving in my car.  

So, after spending time reading these posts, I have to thank God that we are rather blessed that despite my alphabet soup of diagnoses, we have managed to work together to make it work.  But as the ADHD spouse, I am so frustrated! 

What if the ADHD spouse is in charge of everything, and needs help, and the other person doesn't help?  I am so frustrated.  He sees my to-do list, which I keep with me at all times for jotting down things as they hit, and I'm lucky if he offers to do one or two. 

Perhaps this is the totally wrong place to ask this. I have not quite been diagnosed with ADHD yet. I actually have Multiple Sclerosis with a lot of cognitive problems. In fact one neuropsych report said the testing showed some ADD. Is it possible to have ADD that was mild enough to go undiscovered all my life until my MS cognitive problems caused the ADD to come to the forefront? I am no longer married but in a relationship now. Thoughts on this?

First of all, thank you so much for the opportunity to learn and share with others in my position (non ADD wife). The support and understanding feels extremely comforting.

I am looking for some support and answers regarding diagnosis and denial.  A psychiatrist diagnosed my husband a few years ago with ADD yet my husband is in deep denial and refuses to seek treatment or see how his behavior affects others.  He believes he is "managing" just fine. After many arguments and broken promises, I felt I had no option but to enable him by taking on the finances, children, home, calendar, estate planning, investments, initiating sex, planning time for us to be together, etc. Many of these tasks cannot just go undone.

hello,

I am new here and my partner Archie has only just being diagnosed with ADHD [he is 45] even though we have been together for ten years and I have suspected for a long time that this was one of his traits.

I have got a lot of different questions and information I would like to gather!.....but my first question is a bit random, I am hoping someone might help:

I have been married for 33 years. My ADHD was only diagnosed about 6 years ago. It explained a LOT of things to me and reduced my self-blame and 'beating myself over the head with a baseball bat' tremendously. I'd always thought I 'only needed self-discipline' (for better follow-through) and figured it had to be some sort of character flaw in me that had me so scattered. (actually I bought into the whole "dumb blonde" thinking before that was no longer PC, but that's another story)

I will post this quick since I have got to get out of the house but I am wondering if anyone else has this experience....

I have begun seeing a pattern and it is making me crazy! My fiance grew up in a very "accepting" household and by accepting I mean blind support for anything he wanted to do....I am talking when he was an adolescent here. He even dropped out of high school and his mother though he shouldn't but it was okay so long as it made him happy.

My husband has untreated adhd. He was tested two years ago as a make up gesture after yet another big fight. Despite of the diagnose he refused to accept it. Whenever I brought it up he got really upset so about a year and a half ago I decided to change my strategy. I no longer talked about his adhd but I made sure he got all the information he needed on the subject.