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After reading several posts last night, it occurred to me that I need to plan strategies to help myself deal in a positive and healthy way with some of my husband's ADD behaviors.  He's not going to change, so I have to figure out how to behave in certain situations instead of getting plugged in and being angry or playing his mother.

I'm just curious. Haven't read much about this topic yet and there is no board about "planning".

What happens when you (non-ADD spouse) inquires about what's going to happen the next few days?

In my situation, my ADD spouse will simply be very annoyed with the question. How can he know what he will do this weekend? How does he know how he's going to feel this weekend? How do I dare ask him the question? Wait a minute, I must have a secret plan for asking the question... 

If at any time at all we decide to do something, 99% of the time, it will not happen. 

I'm really curious about the scan.  It seems to be a good tool in diagnosing ADD, etc. and very helpful in determing which meds to use.  Has anyone gone to an Amen clinic or the clinid in Denver??   Please post your thoughts on this.  The prices are outrageous but would be worth it if years are saved from trying a multitude of drugs that don't work.

Thanks!

Lulu

I'm not going to write a book but lets say my life has steadily becoming a living hell with my ADD spouse. Unfortunately it took five years of jumping up and down, yelling, and begging  to get him and his parents on board with that fact I thought something was "wrong" with him. He is on medication now and seeing a coach but I have not one ounce of patience, energy, or sympathy to suffer through him while he is going through treatment.

My boyfriend of six months is a professional musician.  He has moved beyond the hyperfocus stage, has started detaching and now has gone a solid week without seeing me.  He's called every few days - sometimes after staying awake for two solid days working on a music with an imaginary deadline.  He has new software that he's learned in record time.  I've seen this mania before and it is alarming but this is the first time I've been completely cut off.  His messages keep telling me what an understanding girlfriend I am and that he misses me but he's soooo busy.  

HI Everyone. This site has been a marraige saver for my husband and I. We been together 12 years, married almost 7. Last month we seperated for 2 weeks, niether of us could deal with the other any longer. A bit of hitstory... After years of not feeling loved etc (typical non-add spouse feelings) I had an affair. I deeply regret it, especially once my husband was diagnoaed with ADD. To find out he really wasn't the jerk I thought I had married and that i had done that to him...the guilt is amazing.  Anyway, during our two week seperation he went to his parents for support.

here's something i'm currently frustrated about: i have adhd.

to make things worse, i have a girlfriend who thinks my problem is that i'm simply not "motivated".  and i can't can't figure out what the hell that means, because to me it seems obvious that i have plenty of motivation. 

I just found this resource though Dr Hallowell's books are the backbone of our ADD library.  Some of the feelings I'm reading sound SOO familiar, though I have to appreciate that my situation is not nearly so extreme as what many of you are facing.  My heart sincerely goes out to everyone in the ADD predicament.

Hi.  My name is Scott and I am a new member of these forums.  I am 32 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD about 6 years ago.  

I just wanted to take a moment to introduce myself and communicate that I am open to answering questions and actively participating with all of you.  I have the same or similiar struggles that others have and I have good days and bad days but I am determined not to let these challenges define a single aspect of who and what I can be.  I welcome your advice and opinions and hope that I can share some of my own.

I look forward to sharing.

hi.  I wanted some feedback on how to better handle dealing with The adhd person and his annoying habits.  My husband has restless leg syndrom, OCD, doesn't know he is singing and he sounds horrible(the kids yell for him to stop when he starts that moose mating call!!), he leaves his things all over the house, is financially irresponsible, yet tells me, "but I have a good heart and I'm trying!"  I feel like a monster b/c we can't even watch a movie together without me saying.."stop biting your nails, moving your legs...tapping on the couch and/or tapping your forehead!" I tell him it's maki