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I'm new here - stumbled across this forum when I was looking for ideas for living with a dependent spouse. 

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 30's, and with the diagnoses, allot of my life came into focus, and it did not look good. I receive mental health care through Veteran Affairs, and they will not treat me with medication. I have such a difficult time being present in the moment I miss so much when it comes to my wife, and to a lesser extent my daughter (my daughter and I are hyperactive over the same activities).  

12 months ago I spoke with a friend who was diagnosed with ADHD, we spoke about his symptoms and it all made sense, maybe I had this mystical ADHD thing. Of my own volition, I seeked out a psychiatrist and was soon diagnosed. I seem to recall my wife was against me 'wasting the money', mainly because she was just as clueless about ADHD as I was - before that, I really had no idea about ADHD symptoms at all, I was clueless that I had it. - mainly my sense of underachievement was my reason to get officially diagnosed.  

I have depression and anxiety that I'm seeking treatment for. My husband has add. We are older adults with grown children. I'm looking for hope out there that a marriage can survive this and how. 

I am a 38-year-old male. I have been with my partner for over 7 years. Together we have 4 kids, two from us, and two from her prior marriage. In December of 2019, I was officially diagnosed with ADHD by my primary. Since then, I have been on Lexapro and Amphetamine. Since being on the medication, the side effects really started to take a toll on me. I am talking major mood issues, irritability, perseverating, emotional outburst, and major emotional disregulation. In the more recent months of this summer. I was self-medicating with alcohol.

I'm new here, is there anybody to talk to today? Need some advice.

This is my first post, and to be honest, I'm ready to pack my bags after eight years with my ADHD boyfriend. 

I'm new here and am in the process of reading the book Melissa Orlov wrote. I'm the non-ADHD one in my relationship. My partner (we suspect) had it and also seriously struggles with addiction. As I'm reading this text as well as other texts on ADHD, I'm finding out that addiction is extremely common among people with ADHD and yet it is not discussed much. I'm at my wits end with my partner. The ADHD on its own is challenging enough but then the addiction....,which has been getting steadily worse. Can a relationship be saved when both are factors in destroying it? What do you even do?

"Crossing moral boundaries in the name of compatibility is a path to unhappiness. Violating your personal standards creates feelings of regret, dissatisfaction, and de-motivation."

Anyone have experience with this perfect storm of ADHD, addiction and anxiety? My husband was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and is on medication. He's been struggling with tobacco addiction (and hiding it from me/lying about it) for several years. We've been having serious marital turmoil for the last six months (related to adhd and tobacco use) and during this time he's started medication for anxiety, and - as I learned last night - an alcohol dependency.