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I'm a happily married adult ADDer who went undiagnosed until I was 46 years old, some 15 years into my second marriage. That was 15 years ago and the memory of how that positive diagnosis felt is still vivid. Relief?  No. Not even close. Joy? Sorry, No. Disappointment? Well. We're getting warm now. I had suspected that ADD might have been behind the struggles with procrastination and time management that had plagued me since my childhood, but I had always entertained the hope that someday I would be able to find a way to not be that way. That hope evaporated the day my diagnosis came in.

Im so done w/ this. After 20 years, im so...bitter, annoyed, angry, fed up. Im overwhelmed every day. On top of it my teen kid has add. Chores not done or half ass done. Cant figure anything out on the computer or even try. "Can you print this?" "Can you email so and so?" Im a secretary? Scanned, organized 3 years of bank statements to get taxes done because he cant figure it out. Find me a doc, i cant figure it out! Intensive lawsuit case evidence, fell on me. Extra money is blown on his shit or big vacations we shouldnt take. Acts like a bratty, pouting, tantrum child.

Hey all, my husband has hypomanic episodes a few times a month.  He comes home after having a few drinks and then chats my ear off all night.  Not listening to me, interrupting, and saying things that he doesn't mean (I hope).  This is really stressful for me as in the past, these episodes usually result in arguments because of the way he is acting.  I have CPTSD and have been doing EMDR for almost a year.  This situation has been a really big trigger for me as he has abused alcohol in the past and the episodes were way worse.  I have been considering just going to my room for the evening a

Does anyone have a therapist they would recommend who can work with a non-ADHD spouse on emotional distress after infidelity?  The relationship is healed, but I am looking for help with individual healing.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD three years ago at the age of 66. We have been married for 45 difficult years. The diagnosis was a shock and a relief. At least it gave us some answers. He does well on Adderall, but, he will often forget to take it or choose not to take it due to something he may have read on the internet. He has cut himself off from his therapist for refusing to take anti anxiety meds, which he aslo desparately needs. Needless to say, he cannot do anything really.

In the summer of 2019 my now 14 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD.  After we had her start seeing a therapist and getting her symptoms under control, my wife of 19 years also started to see a separate therapist.  This therapist, without having met me, and through the descriptions my wife gave was convinced that I was a narcissistic emotional abuser. 

Hi Everybody,

My husband and I have been together since 2010 and married since 2013. We have not gotten diagnosed but I think we both have ADHD. I have been he sole provider since about a year into us dating. He lived with his parents for several years as he did not have a job and I did nt make enough money at the time to support us both as I lived with my mom as well. We have been living together for 6ish years now and I have been the sole provider the whole time.