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We were in a relationship for 8 months; I know he loves me and I do love him to death. He told me at the beginning that he has ADHD, but i didn`t know much about it until today. The relationship has been milk and honey the first 3 months, then I felt a change and I started expressing it (now I see that I did it in a wrong way and he`s been taking it as a criticism). At every conflict he would break up with me, block me, not speaking to me for a few days, and it was me all the time the one that would initiate and try to get back together.

Wow, I am so glad I found this forum. I can't even believe I am not alone. So many stories feel exactly like mine. My 6-year old was recently diagnosed with hyperactive ADHD (and other things) and as I am researching more about the struggles they have internally it dawned on me that my husband probably has ADHD of the inattentive type. My brother has hyperactive ADHD so I thought I had insight as to what it "looked like". I should also note here that my husband and I are living together but separated because of pandemic/finances/children (more on why coming).

Hi everyone! 

Hey, I'm new to this forum so I wanted to say it's good to meet you all. Hopefully I can find some advice from smarter people and give some to others in return. 

A little background about me: I am a 30 year old female married to a diagnosed but untreated ADHD posterboy who I love more than anything in the world. I'm not here to complain or fish for reasons to leave him by any means. At the same time, I am in what seems to be the common place of exhaustion, exacpiration, old hurts,and cluelessness about what to do to resolve things and make life easier for both of us. 

Hi, everyone, 

I've been married to my ADHD spouse for about 15 years. I definitely have my own individual frustrations as a spouse but this is about my husband as a dad. We have a 10 year old daughter, and he is definitely present in terms of things like taking her to lessons after school, making dinner, helping with homework, etc. So I don't want to give the impression that he is totally checked out. But it feels like, as she gets older and develops her own personality and interests, he is simply bored and/or annoyed by her, unless they are doing something he likes.

myself being the non, ive learned a lot from this site, Thank you all for sharing both sides of this.

This relationship has been off and on for 15 plus years.

I knew something was off due to her behavior, but had not educated myself with mental health issues.

Im not going to go into great detail but i just need some insight on these issues and what suggestions any may have.

what happened to my attention, needs,boundaries, respect?

why does it start off great and mutually respectful and then dies?

Help!  I have been married 21 years and my marriage is awful.  My husband has no focus!  I told him years ago to get tested and if it was ADHD, at least we can build a toolkit to cope and then hopefully manage.  He refused but now with yet another blow up on his part, now he thinks he is ADHD because I told him I have one foot out the door.  And his behaviours are getting worse.  I am used to asking for things 3 or 4 times, doing things myself.  I have every feeling described for a spouse of ADHD.  He has most behaviours of ADHD.

My husband of 23 years  has ADHD I have four children, the arguments are constant and have been for 20 years. I can't cope anymore, it's so many things. What seems like lies, what feels like he doesn't care about me or kids things because he doesn't follow through makes wild promises, and let's me down so much. I can't stand anymore arguments the pain inside is intense. Please someone can you show me where to start ? 
 

Thank you so much