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Read a recent thread about whether to stay in a difficult ADHD relationship or leave. 

To me it seems ADHD partners can be well-intended but functionally dishonest, inconsistent and dismissive of their partner’s needs. Kind and loyal. But then do these immensely destructive, even hateful, things when challenged.

At least for me it’s been the obvious good intentions of my ex husband that’s made staying reasonable for decades. 

I'm revisiting Carl Jung and his teachings lately. I'm connecting with them more than ever, which for me, speaks to the place I'm in, in my own self discovery. 

It's been a while since my last post but I've come on here and there for somw comfort and relevancy....but im stuck guys. Really stuck. Its dawned on me that everyday I'm triggered and it's my husband that triggers me. And to walk through life this on edge is not the life for me at all. I don't want this life anymore. I want a better marriage or I want out. I know this but I cant seem to get myself unstuck...even a little bit.

Hello;

Extreme guilt haunts me.  I ended a lengthy relationship with my fiance who has ADHD and, I suspect, bipolar.  We called off our wedding so he could seek treatment as we both felt that this was a priority.

My guilt stems from the fact that I feel I failed him.  Isn't " in sickness and health" a vow that I should have remained in the relationship?

I've been married to my ADHD partner for several years, and after the initial hyperfocus phase, I suspected infidelity. My wife, diagnosed with ADHD since college, seems to have lost focus on me. As a lawyer, she works extensively, and when she does focus on me, things can go well, but this is now rare. Do others feel the same sense of loneliness I do? We maintain intimacy on weekends, though she struggled with the schedule I established due to our busy household with six children, one with special needs. She admitted that without this schedule, we wouldn't be intimate.

My husband has severe ADHD, and the mask has been fully off for a couple of years now. Every marriage problem you can have with the ADHD effect, we've got it — plus a few bonuses, like intentional misuse of his medication ("binges," up to 3 days without sleep).

I’m seeking advice from others who’ve experienced similar challenges in their marriage. My husband struggles with job-related depression, and I have inattentive ADHD, hormone imbalance, and a validation complex (as my therapist calls it). I feel like a failure when I don't meet certain expectations, and it's affecting our marriage. We have two young children (5 and 7), and we've been together for 15.5 years.

Good morning, in trying to figure out why I'm irritated all the time, need to be doing something, and can't sleep in - I think I have high functioning anxiety or productivity anxiety. I know that if I slip on my projects/responsibilities things won't get done properly in our household and can easily snowball into bigger problems.

I actually asked him. 

I texted my ADD ex husband I was considering a new serious relationship, told him I’ve loved him and haven’t wanted divorce. I asked to know if there were any possibility of us resolving our conflicts and reuniting. I told him I can’t repair what’s happened to our relationship, but he could.

Yesterday my child wept, lying on my chest, that they want the family to be together. I can’t start something new unless I’m certain there’s no misunderstanding and no hope of reconciliation. 

I wanted to write this down before I forget. Our biggest obstacle, in my mind, is my Inabilty to discuss things that involve my feelings and my SO's hypersensitivity to perceived criticism, fault, wrong doing, etc. I'm wording it that way because that's her perspective. It very difficult to talk about things when someone is instantly on the defensive so, I've gotten in the habit of not.