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I have real communication problems with my wife. We’ve been married for 13 years and for the whole period I have been incredibly confused by her lack of communication. 

She rarely sends me messages or replies to messages that I’ve sent her, even if I send her pictures and thoughtful things I rarely get an acknowledgement.  So I have stopped doing it which is really sad. I see things I would usually say or share with a partner throughout the day and I just stop because I think there’s no point. A loving, connecting part of me has died. 

I am very confused and would really appreciate some help. My wife has ADHD and I am autistic. I have read a lot about couples where the non-ADHD partner can become the organiser and the nag and the ADHD partner feels like the child always being told off. 

However, in my case, my wife has ADHD and is also the nag. She is incredibly intolerant, angry and irritable.

I Want to understand how i can reach my ex girlfriend without breaking her peace or her space

My wife has legitimate reasons to be unhappy and frustrated. I've worked hard to improve but I don't have hope and I cannot take the harsh treatment anymore. 

Hi

I'm diagnosed since 2 months and together with my girlfriend for almost 10 years, and we have 2 kids.
Unfortunately we are struggling for some years now (not only undiagnosed adhd, but a lot of stuff that got thrown at us from outside)

Since diagnosis and meds, things have been better and actually steadily uphill until the end of last week....
A conversation triggered me (and my girlfriend then of course) and I felt for days like I wasn't taking meds (took my normal dose).

Hello everyone, this is my first post here. I am not a native english speaker so, I apologise for the possible mistakes in writing.

I come accross in this forum because I am wondering if my husband -we first met 18 years ago- could be ADHD. I know this is not the way to get a diagnosis, but I need some help in order to speak about this with my husband and understeand if I can convince him to contact a specialist.

My husband and I hsve very different ideas about how to handle debt obligations.  I've seen him totally ignore bills, let them go into collection and worse,  Now we have to talk about retirement

I am the non-ADHD spouse and my husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD. We've been together 13 years, married for 8. He finally sought a diagnosis after a few years of impulsive decisions that had a increasing impacts, financially and emotionally, on our family and I was at the end of my rope. He is trying meds and in therapy. I have decided to stick with it with the hope things can improve. This forum has been so enlightening for me and so grateful I found it. So many things said here I could have written myself.