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Recently Learned I am ADHD

So i figuratively had my wife put a "gun to my head" and tell me she was not in love with me anymore and she was thinking about leaving.  This was the same conversation we have about every 6-9 months, but this time it was different.  We live a good life, based on what I have read I am a high functioning ADHD'er.  I own a  successful company, have two great kids with no symptoms that I can see, we live in Newport, RI and my father in law lives with us.  My wife is a beautiful, smart, organized and driven woman.  She is also the adult child of an alcoholic, and her mother passed away 11 years

The effect of stress on ADHD symptoms - how to get through it, strategies?

What a year. We got married in August and are now living with his parents after serious financial fallout. Ups and downs like crazy. Simultaneously one of the best and worst years of my life so, obviously, stressful, draining. Didn't exactly see myself being a housewife and living with my in-laws 4 months into marriage. (Especially when we've already been together so long. Man, that's some bad timing. Thanks, life!)

My husband says I'm a Bit**

My ADHD husband calls me a bit** all the time.  He says I'm bitter and I complain about everything.  He's right, I have turned into a miserable woman.  But how much can one person take without completely losing it?  In our 7 year marriage he has had over 30 jobs, most of which only lasted a few weeks or a few months.  He only helps around the house when I force him too.  He hasn't done any upkeep on our 30 year old home and it's in need of lots of repairs.  He sits around all day and talks about all the things he wants to do and tells me how much money he can make when he finds the right jo

Forgetfulness is so hurtful

My husband (the partner with ADD) has a terrible problem remembering things, but primarily anything that has to deal with me or the kids.  Whether important, like a neurologist appt for our son, or not so important.  For Christmas, my husband actually forgot all about my present.  He actually ordered it himself, the coffee pot I showed him online.  I guess I should be happy that he actually ordered it himself, usually I order my presents on my own.  When it came he wouldn't let me see it, even though I knew what it was.  I thought, wow, I might actually get a wrapped present this year.  No

ADHD spouse seems to be floundering; can I do anything?

My husband's main source of income the past three years has been from providing companionship and some caregiving to his ailing elderly parents.  H has somewhat typical ADHD behaviors and symptoms:  difficulty keeping a good job; financial problems; denial of responsibility for his role in problems; difficulties with communication and intimacy; avoidance of certain kinds of responsibilities and tasks; comorbid mental health issues (depression and anxiety).  We have been living apart this fall but he was home this weekend because our daughters had just arrived for the holidays.

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