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Today, for the first time I am publicly facing what I have suspected for years.  We just celebrated out 9th anniversary but I feel like my heart has gone to sleep.

I am a Non-ADHD spouse.  My story is long and my need for support great.  We made a doctor's appointment a couple of years ago to talk about the possibility

of my spouse having some type of ADHD. ( I had done some research on ADHD and come to understand that perhaps I was not going crazy and the doctor

Love is something that i have never felt for a long time while being in this relationship with my Ex.I can't remember when was the last time he looked at me with those loving eyes and said i love you hun!.Today i love him and probably will for a while until i meet someone else.He tore me to pieces,he ruined my every Skye ability to trust another man again.I was, we was very much in love at first and it was the most amazing feeling of my life.After a few weeks or so things started getting very comfy for him and he started dominating me,controlling me,telling me who to talk to, who to be with

I keep saying this is it – the last straw – I cannot keep doing this – when will she ever “get it”. I know in my heart it may be never, but my “it” is different than her “it”. Our son is 5 years old next month and I have been his primary caregiver since he was 2 (we still all live together, but she does nothing to assist concerning parenting). I read where it stated to not “exaggerate – or whatever”, but I am completely serious. She has never read a book to him and could not tell you right now what his teachers name is.

So I have read a lot of disheartening stories here. I am currently with an adhd bf. Adhd has caused some problems, but we still love each other and we have talked about possibly getting married in the future. I am sure there are a good amount of successful adhd marriages. However, I see that adhd can also cause a lot of pain. What should i think about or evaluate about my adhd man before I decide to share a life with him? 

I had posted previously on here with a different name and received a lot of positive feedback.

Sorry, this is long as hell. But I'm just at a loss as to what to do. Maybe someone can help.

My husband has done some terrible things over the years (not cheat) and now he is trying his very best to mend the broken heart that comes with it... You probably all recognize the stuff out ADHD partners put us through so i wont list everthing but please, how do i forgive and let go??? 

I have already googled my brains out and "just let go" is not working :(

HELP!

My bf gets excited about various projects and doesn't see them through; I understand this and it doesn't bother me too much. Something I am having difficulty understanding is how sometimes he becomes interested in a strange project and suddenly it's a priority. For example, lately he has decided that building a wine rack for his car (you read that correctly) is a priority. He has a large subwoofer and tinted windows in this '97 wagon, and I know part of the appeal of such a ridiculous project is simply that--it's ridiculous.

So on this forum I have heard the term, "hyperfocus" regarding how romantic adhd partners can be at the start of a relationship. Does this mean that their romantic acts are not fueled by actual love but by there Adhd? Or are they in love when they are romantic but their adhd just makes them show it more? What makes this different than your typical relationship "honeymoon" stage and "comfortable" stage. Every relationship has a honeymoon stage at first and then people get comfortable.

Tomorrow will be our 4 year anniversary. I never dreamed we would be spending it apart and under these conditions. No matter what has happened and how far apart we are, I am still completely in love with my wife and only want her to be happy and to find some help to get through some of her own issues. I pray for her and our daughter every day and hope that one day she can come to realize how deeply I will always love her. Tomorrow will be a hard day...