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Long history of poor relationship due to undiagnosed and treated ADHD and cheating from impulse control.

Hi all! New here. My partner 32M diagnosed with ADHD and I are going away to NZ in three days. Usually I would be so excited to leave the country (first time since 2019) but the lead up and packing has been stressful to say the least. Sorry for the upcoming rant. 

My long distance girlfriend (who was diagnosed with ADD/depression years ago) basically told me a couple of weeks back how due to her ADD she forgot to bring in an assignment to her vet tech class and got an F (it's an aggressive one year school before she graduates). Then she said she's thinking of stripping. I told her don't as it's dangerous (particularly where she has to live to be near the school). She blocked me for no reason last week. We are still friends on Facebook and the only way to chat is on her posts.

I have questions about ADHD and need some help reconciling my thoughts and feelings after a 30 year relationship ended 2 months ago.

1) What happens when an ADHD spouse- female, aged 50, doesnt seek therapy/treatment strategies for the ADHD?

2) What happens when said ADHD spouse does not take medication properly, lays off of it on weekends, or misses it?

3) What happens when said ADHD spouse also is a closet drinker and self medicates with alcohol because it 'helps them deal with issues'?

I am new to this community but super grateful to have people to turn to to ask for help and opinions. My partner 24M and I 23F have been together for 5 years now, and last week J (my partner) has been diagnosed with ADHD I'm assuming during his last therapy session. After his therapy sessions he always calls me on the drive home to tell me about it. After the session and we do our scheduled call he goes on to tell me that we needed a break from our relationship, to have more space to work on himself, and hung up before I could've asked what happened.

I’m in a long distance relationship with my gf (who was dx with ADHD years ago) for the past 2 years (friends for over 10) and for the last  2 months it seems she hardly answers my texts like she used to. It can sometimes go on for days with me texting her before she replies (and when she replies, it’s not for long periods of time like we used it).  Even if she did, she wouldn’t reply to previous questions I texted her. I know she is busy with finals for her university lately, but I’d think she’d at least acknowledge me. I feel like she’s gotten bored with me and ignores me.

Hi, this is my first time posting although I've been reading a lot of the posts. My husband of 7 years was diagnosed with severe combined type ADHD in 2020 (after a 5/6 year long wait for an assessment, UK). I was also diagnosed autistic in 2022 after long expecting it) 
 

Hello,

My partner with ADHD lies to cover up shame or embarrassment. He will tell me he is doing something when he is not, or will lie that he didn't do something if he knows it would stir up conflict or I would not agree. On top of that, his communication style is such that his actions do not match his words- for example he will say he is "Wrapping up" at work and then won't be actually done until an hour later (I recognize no bad intentions) but it makes it very , very difficult to trust just about anything he says as reality, factual and accurate.

Been with the ADHD man a year. During this time he's been settling a high conflict divorce, been to psych ward twice as not on correct meds.