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I wanted other non-ADHD partner views on whether their mental health has been significantly impacted by their ADHD partner?

This afternoon, I picked up my ADHD Effect on Marriage book again and read a bit. It is always so hard to read this book because my ADD husband refuses to seek any form of treatment, but says "it's just his personality". I married him and so I just need to deal with who he is. Plain and simple. It's very defeating. And the truth is....I spend every spare moment of my life trying to escape reality. I can't sleep at night. I'm depressed. I'm angry. I am very very isolated and alone in this. And I have 2 young children.

Dark times here.   My ADHD husband and I are currently dealing with a stressful situation with a neighbor.   At the beginning of this situation, I had him deal with it because he is more of a people person.  However, he screwed that up and put us in a situation where the neighbor is still wronging us and is now angry about the situation.   So I stepped in.   I'm the one dealing with the attorneys, I'm the one dealing with neighborhood groups, and I'm the one who is getting the brunt of this very serious problem. 

Recently my fiancee and I have broken up. I want to win her back. She had started to see another man in the middle of the night. She said she liked to be around him and insisted it was nothing more then a friendship. I eventually let my insecurities get the best of me and would overwhelm her asking questions and wondering why her tone was the same as when we first fell in love. The last time we were around each other we had a date and it went well. We had some drinks and I fell asleep. I woke later in the night to find her gone.

I can literally be sitting here right next to wife and ask her a question and I swear she never hears what I said. Instead of her saying " can you repeat that" she answers back or swears i never said what I said. 
 

hi! my wife and I got married 5 years ago. I was 25 she was 24. We had a terrible honeymoon because she couldn't have sex as it was excruciatingly painful for her. We than didn't knew what vaginismus was. We tried to sort it out ourselves but failed and after almost 2 years we went to see a gynecologist who diagnosed it as vaginismus and adviced to use dilators. I got the dilators for her and it has been 3 years since that. she uses them occasionally but isn't consistent and the vaginismus problem still persists.

Hi, reading everyone's posts is so helpful & makes me realise I'm not the only one experiencing the same frustrations. I've been with my husband for 20 years. The penny dropped about 5 years ago that he likely has adhd. It explains so many situations, misunderstandings, arguments, confusions over the years. To cut a long story short, he remains undiagnosed. He is hard-working and a great dad, which makes it so hard to consider leaving. However I'm finding it so hard day to day to feel calm around him.

Hi All,

My husband has ADHD, I'm sure of it, but he won't get diagnosed. I have been doing hours of research on how to deal with this/him, and have learned a lot about myself, and my reactions while doing so

My ADHD partner and I live separately. That's good in some ways as reduces conflict over housework. What maddens me is that when he's decided we've had an argument (it's usually a small bicker that somehow cuts him like a knife) he will withdraw for days on end saying 'let's take a break.' He will message but not pick up the phone. Weekend plans made previously become uncertain. It drive me crazy but when he's in withdrawal I have no option to explain how I feel. Is this really just ADHD or is it just mean? 

My grave ADD husband of 20 years and I have moved back together after three months of living separately. The time apart has made our situation clearer. I have realized I do manage work, the household, the children's activities and Christmas preparations alone, even when sick with the flu for weeks. He has realized his capacity is even smaller than he thought. He cannot make any promises about his contribution to the family long or short term.