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Here we go again.... another weekend where ADD spouse is MIA. He has a new obsession in which he thinks he's going to die....again... so he is lost in anxiety, depression, internal space, and grumpy attitude to family. Now he thinks his heart is going to stop, even though he visited the doctor (an appointment I had to set up because he wouldn't) and they ran tests and everything was fine. In fact, the normal high blood pressure was actually good....but NO this is another sign he is going to die!!!!

My spouse was newly diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago and prescribed adderall. It's been beneficial for them in a lot of aspects of their life (schoolwork, energy levels, help around the house), but they've withdrawn from our relationship 100% and is now contemplating divorce. They claim that they're thriving in all aspects of life except for our marriage and they just don't feel any desire to spend time with me anymore.

I have been struggling in my 10 year marriage with a partner who is likely ADHD [I pretty much "knew' that when we got together from my Special Ed teaching background]

but he does not accept that there may be a need for assessment and strategies.

I've come to the conclusion that the only one I can change is me and my actions/ reactions so today I wrote myself a daily prayer for "Transformation and Self Growth."

Hello. My Husband and I have been married for 24 years. He is ADHD and I am not. I could write a book about all of the challenges that we have faced over the years lol, however I have one specific topic to post today and I am seeking feedback. My husband talks too much. A conversation usually entails me listening 95% of the time and then maybe 5% of the time I have a turn to talk. When I do have a chance to talk within the first sentence he is already interrupting me, interjecting with his train of thought or assumptions and without patience to wait until the end of what I have to say.

Hello, I'm new to this community and I'd like to get some advice on my marriage. I'm a person without ADHD and my wife has ADHD. I recently finished reading "The ADHD effect on marriage" as I was beginning to feel ignored and unloved. I've become bossy and controlling in our relationship and I hate myself. Much of the book talks about empathizing with your partner and appreciating the strengths that come with their ADHD rather than focusing on the negatives.

What do you do when your ADHD husband outright indicates that he doesn’t know if commitment to you and your marriage outweighs his curiosity for being with other women?  I am at a loss.  I don’t even recognize the man I married anymore.  He got a taste of this fix for other women with an affair and immediately regretted it when I stated my boundaries and left him.  I decided to put my heart back on the line again, against my wishes of not wanting to be this shattered ever again, but he outlined with such clarity his regrets saying he would never do anything to hurt me ever again.  He made a

I just replied to someone else's post and thought I should share my story here in the Joy in Marriages ADHD section. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, together for more. Her ADHD and symptoms did not really get heavy until after childbirth around 15 years ago. She was diagnosed around 10 years ago. 

We have 2 girls and both also have been diagnosed with ADHD. Needless to say my life has been impacted by ADHD. So have their lives. It's this simple observation that has been the baseline of our successful relationship.

Hi, I am relatively new here and grateful to hear your stories - up until now I felt so alone and misunderstood. Rather than listing the numerous unfinished projects, equipment blocking our driveway and money lost on irresponsible (and completely unilateral) decisions on "good deal" major purchases my undiagnosed husband has made during our 17 year marriage. If not for our 2 children I would have left a few years ago.

Hi all, I'm looking for advice on hyperfocus in a relationship wearing off after about 18 months with an ADHD partner. As our relationship has progressed, my partner has previously said on multiple occasions that they want to move in with me and they want a future with me (marriage, children etc). However, recently my partner has said they now want to attend therapy for guidance and to make sure they are making the right decision about a life with me. I think therapy is a great tool, however I was extremely caught off guard by this comment.

I have been with my partner for 6 VERY rocky years. Beginning of this year he got the diagnosis of inattentive type ADD which explains A LOT! The question we are facing now is medication... his doctor is currently evaluating with his cardiologist what kind he can take etc.