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I ended things today with my husband and made up my mind to no longer continue the relationship.One of the many forums I wrote would explain how bad I was suffering,and still is.The forum subject is( I TOOK OFF MY WEEDING RING TODAY,IT'S OVER,HE USED ME FOR HIS OWN CONVENIENCE),this is the follow up of it .Every one who reads my forums must think that I have alot of courage to stay with such a hypocrite man as him.I suffered constant abuse, and the days he won't abuse me he would do things to piss me off.I have ADHD too and I only realized it from reading and finding exact symptoms they car

I took my weeding ring off today,he is very hard and cruel to me he does not understand my hurts and pain in this marriage.We went out last night and we had a good time, but the long over due of us separating has finally come  to an end.He is living in his own apartment now since he got his job and it pays him so well he can now afford his own apartment, and I am happy for him.But his high demands from me is a little to much for me since, I have so much going on for me at home, with my kids and my work.I work from home and make my living from home so I can't live with him and that Is creati

I love him,I love him too much, but he won't stop accusing me.He won't stop nagging on me ,checking up on me, how is it he can't see how much I'm trying with him,I joined this ADHD marriage site to help me cope through our marriage and to try and save it..I thought I was alone out there with a terrible husband with such selfish needs and self centered ways,and when I joined the forums I somehow manage to stay with him,the ADHD marriage forums helped me a lot and I read about it on line as well,but things are getting tough and I can't deal with his angry tantrums that he throws at me and acc

My wife is JUST now getting diagnosed but the more I read the more I understand that she is ADD and how that has been killing our marriage.

Let me start by saying that I have a high libido with a proclivity for being a thrill seeker. My belief is that thrill seeking is not bad as long as the activity is within norms... E.G. a sex swing in the privacy of our bedroom.

My husband is very tight with money ever since I knew him but, I never knew he would  bring that sort of energy around me..I am a very hard working woman for as long as I could remember, and I raised two kids on my own with a little help from my parents but as soon as my alcoholic dad left my mother for a next woman, I have been raising them on my own since then..I am financially stable at the time but I assume that if you are married to someone they would help you out financially especially a ma n? RIGHT OR WRONG?

Occasionally, I see comments from people along the lines of, "Why did you get married to this person if he has all these problems?" or "Why are you still married to this person?" or "How could you even think of splitting with someone who has a disability?"

I've thought about these a lot and wanted to share some of my answers.  I'd love it if other people would offer their thoughts, too.

1) I was young and stupid.

2) I liked him and thought he would be a good provider.

I am the non-ADHD husband.  My wife has recently been diagnosed with ADHD.  We have been married for 17 years and I have known there have been issues for a while.  I will not delve into them fully here.  But it would seem like since my wife's diagnosis she has used it like a shield to blame her bad behavior on.  So, in short, she seems to have advocated all personal responsibility for her actions.  If she know's the difference between right and wrong, why does she continue to do wrong?

My husband and I have a wonderful, caring therapist with a doctoral degree who doesn't think our marriage issues are CAUSED by my husband's ADHD. He thinks his ADHD exacerbates the problems. He actually said that my husbands ADHD would enable him to hyper focus on me when I try to talk to him about a problem. I was stunned! I told him that in all the reading and research and all the people I've met through this forum, not one ever said that their husband's ADHD made them more likely to pay attention to them.