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I just joined the forum, and I posted this on a thread, but I think I was supposed to start a new topic?  So forgive me for repeating (under "Anger")  I've been reading these posts, they've been helpful, and I need some perspective.  I've been married to my ADHD husband for 2 years.  He is kind and loving, and we had a strong relationship, emotionally and physically, though we were struggling with typical issues of trying to avoid a parent/child dynamic. He was diagnosed as an adult about 5 years ago (he's 41) and takes medication.   But there were some very hard issues with money.

Hello,

To: admin@adhdmarriage.com
I have a marketing company and tonight, my husband with adult ADHD would NOT leave me alone! I went online where I discovered only your blog for advice to married couples dealing with this issue.

Though he has not been diagnosed with ADHD I feel pretty confident my husband suffers from it. He has never been able to reach his goals, feel self confident, hold a job, maintain relationships, or in general, have any kind of focus on anything other than himself.  I gave him a couple books to read, hoping he would come to the conclusion that he has ADHD and get some help.  Not holding my breathe, but I am hoping he has some sort of an epiphany. 

*sigh*

The Love of my life of 18 years (Married for 11) has just told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. I'm devastated. I was diagnosed with combined subtype ADHD shortly before our first (only) child was born about 2 years ago. I had always self medicated with Marajuana (which she knew about but didn't really approve of for a future family environment). I agreed with that and don't condone using cannabis in the house with kids around.

I've been lurking around on this site for a few weeks now and finally decided to post something I haven't seen a lot of discussion about. Perhaps it's not an ADHD symptom itself, but the result of the feeling of being overwhelmed.

The back story...

I've recently started taking Concerta to try and help with my ADD.  I was wondering what some of the effects people have had.  I don't seem to have a great effect on my true mental ability, just seem to be hyped up, but not in a caffeinated way.  That, and I believe I've noticed that it tends to make me feel more emotional.  I can find myself allowing thoughts to well up and almost push me to crying (for the record, I'm the kind of person who all but never cries).  It's really odd.  I was wondering if anyone else had had this effect?

This is going to be a long, depressing story.  It's also my first post, so you all have to be gentle with me.

I decided to post here because I want to rebuild the relationship with my girlfriend of 16 months, who is also my best friend of 4 years.  She is a rising second year medical student, and I am a (hopefully soon to be graduating) undergraduate.

I have spent the last 15 years dealing with a relationship crippled by ADHD (recently diagnosed as "mild" by non adhd shrink), and I am wondering if I am simply done.  he is taking meds and I can see he is trying to address the things that I told him I had a problem with.  But the anger is still just RIGHT THERE any time I start to talk about what I have been through.  He has said HORRIBLE unkind things to me...admitted that he calculated they were horrible, but he said them anyway...He is not affectionate in any way unless he wants sex, which I have absolutely NO interest in...even thoug