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It's been a long time since I've been here, just wanted to share and give hope to those who can find it in what I write. I'm writing under my DH's account, can't get into mine. Long story, but he registered and will be sharing soon. When I was here last I was at the end of my rope and had given DH an ultimatum. Two years to show some progress and address his ADHD or I go. Things got progressively worse on my end. I lost all interest in everything,no makeup, no manicures, no hobbies.

Ive been coming here for a long time and it has been incredible to not feel alone like I was before. It was very difficult especially last year, when he hit 50, found out he had adhd late the year before, and started drinking and hanging out with a group of men with similar issues.

My husband has ADD and one of the things he struggles with is keeping up with appointments that are on his Outlook calendar.  I would love to help him with this, but I do not have Outlook.  I use Google Calendar instead.  Does anyone know if there is a way for his Outlook calendar to automatically notify me by email each time a new appointment is scheduled?  I know one way would be for him to invite me to any appointment he has, but we are looking for a solution that will be automatic, not one that will create more work for him.  Thanks for any suggestions you may be able to offer me.  

My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and has begun medication as well as therapy. I am also in therapy to try to understand the whole situation and to get over the trauma this has caused to me and our relationship. Meanwhile I am extremely angry ALL the time, at him and at everything else around me. Now every day I seem to get angrier, sadder, and am isolating myself from life. This is out of character for me, as I typically had not been an angry, sad or lonely person in the past.

Ok so...been a little over two weeks since my husbands diagnoses and he isn't liking the way the meds make him feel.  He said that they are making his depression worse and he has no energy, which is understandable, meds need to be adjusted...no big deal.  So he calls his doctor, yesterday, to make an appointment and the doctor (brilliant person that he is--yes that was sarcastic) tells him not to bother coming in, quit taking all the meds completely (which means his depression medication also) and he will see him in two weeks and they will try something completely new.

I am new to this site and feel like I just found the world's most perfect support group.  I have never even blogged or chatted before, but I am desperate.  14 years together, my ADHD husband has a good, kind heart, and we still love each other, but it has just become too much.  His denial would probably be the worst part.  Every single thing I have read on here hits home.  Horrible money problems, career problems, personal relationships, self-confidence problems, defensiveness to the point of horrible (impulsive) anger, withdrawal,- then on my part, playing the "mother" role, criticizing, d

Would someone please explain the blame game and what's behind it.  We are trying to work through things one piece at a time but I still don't get what's going through his head when he blames me for things that defy logic or reality.  It's like he re-creates history and actually believes it.  I don't understand the need for it and I don't understand if in his mind he truly believes the new improved version.  A friend's ADD daughter does the same thing and sometimes just makes her mother's jaw drop it's so incredulous.

Ok, so I was cleaning out a closet today and found a box that I thought was full of my husband's books... but they were MY books!  hurrah!!

I bought Sari Solden's 'Women with ADHD' 5 years ago and STILL have not read it.  ok... now I'm going to try again.  but maybe tomorrow, since right now my meds have worn off and I don't think I could read/understand a Cheerios box.

baby steps & taking comfort in tiny victories today....

Sunday at 2pm (in a restaurant)

I'm the non-ADHD spouse and my husband was diagnosed about 3 yrs ago.  He has gone through phases of being great about being willing to work on adhd issues/develop systems that help him alternating with periods where it seems as if he has forgotten that the ADHD is even there, and resents it being brought up by me.  He is on medications, but likely not the optimal regimen for him as he doesn't seem to get much effect from it (he's working on this with his doctor).