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After almost a decade of being together, buying a house, starting our family with our dogs, and three unsuccessful attempts at getting married, we have finally decided to deal with our issues first. Though he is the one that called off the wedding because of the work we have to do in our relationship, I understand and support him in the decision. I am devastated that we are not getting married even though everything was planned and set to go (he called it off within a week and a half from the big day). I am an over achiever, very controlling, and a perfectionist.

Seems that's the route i am being made to take.  My ADD husband wants out.... I am drowning in the pit of hurt, loneliness ...just sooooo freaking unreal.

How in the hell do i leave or even prepare myself to leave a marriage/man that I am in love with....ughhhhh

 

 

 

 

We had another argument about an issue that keeps coming up. We went out to dinner last night, and I was obviously frustrated but was trying to "shake it off". (didn't accomplish it) Anyway, during the entire car ride, dinner, shopping and ride home, my husband talked about himself, his projects, his work and everything else. (as usual) I was getting frustrated because I wanted to talk about something ELSE, anything else, I didn't care, but just something that had to do with ME instead of always having to talking about my husbands interests.

My husband of almost 8 years has ADD and while he is managing it with medication, so many of these symptoms have played a huge role in disintegrating our marriage. Alcohol and late night partying in loud bars/clubs was used as self medication (he did drugs in college), and he'd do it even knowing I felt ignored, unloved and never a priority in his life. I know why he did it  - he needed to block out all the 50 radio channels in his head and the stress of life - but it sure didn't make me feel important or loved.

Babe,

I try to talk to you, but I don't know how to say how I feel in a manner that you'd understand. I try talking and expressing my feelings only to shutter at the very thought of why I even attempted because I am met with not being understood nor feeling appreciated.  I am afraid you don't want me to say anything unless it's to validate your ADD ways/emotions.  So, because I don't agree?  I don't utter a word.  

Wow, I did not this type of forum existed.  I'm glad I found it.  I was reading melissa's book and wow...

I am sooooo hurt, so down today I have to look up to see the bottom!  Yes, I am the non-ADHD'er married to a husband who talks, emails, chat's, text, set up VoiP telephone numbers just to talk to a particular ex-slut (chick) from his past.  We've been married almost 7 years and for ALL 7 of those years, it's always been HER, in our marriage.  If I am not doing something or tending to his needs?  He reaches out to his 'crutch'.  He constantly says it's not cheating because he isn't 'physically' doing anything with her!  Wow..... okay....

Ok so this is my first entry. I so need to vent.  I'm a 24 year old woman and I always knew something was "wrong" with my husband of 4 years but I couldnt quite put my finger on it. He knew he had adhd and so did his mother but no one told me until i discovered it on my own.

I am a sixty-year-old non-ADHD female who has been married almost thirty years to an ADHD man.  This was my second marriage and his first. He was diagnosed with ADHD and Social Anxiety disorder about four years ago.  A Therapist made this diagnosis, as we were unable to see a Psychiatrist who we could afford. As a result, he has never been prescribing any medication for his ADHD or his Anxiety disorder. We have never had medical insurance during our married life because of our lack of employment opportunities. (ie.  Education!)Is there anywhere we can obtain help other than Gov.

Hi, I'm new here.  I downloaded the free chapters last night and found myself laughing out loud at how much our relationship resembles the ones described in the book.  My husband and I have long suspected that he has ADHD based on his family history, but he has never received a diagnosis.  I would very much like for him to read the chapters and consider examining some of these issues, but I have a feeling this will be met with resistance from him.