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I'm new here. Well, new to posting anything here, but today has just been so miserable that I had to put it all somewhere, and I hope you'll all be gracious enough to allow me the vent. My other half is eight years younger than me, and was diagnosed with ADHD and depression as a child. His mother died when he was young, and his father refused to get treatment for his problems, insisting that he was making it all up for attention and because he was lazy. I know he still suffers terribly from ADHD, and he's acknowledged it himself many times.

Hello Melissa, and everyone,

I am the husband of a wife that I suspect has some sort of ADHD subtype.  I've read 5 books now on the topic (originally suggested by our marriage therapist).  My life with my wife seems to have been recorded and reiterated on nearly every page of those books.  She is highly functioning, and my guess is that most of her difficulties have found hiding places in her coping mechanisms that she has had 53 years to perfect.  This is an elusive disorder in my wife to say the least.

First let me say that finding this website and Melissa's book have been like finding a life preserver in a stormy sea where I was about to drown. I guess it has been about a month and where I thought there was no hope I am finding hope again.
 

Many of you know that my husband and I (well, probably more me than him) were having some recent issues I felt were related to medication. We hit 'rock bottom' last winter, reconciled in Dec 09, decided things were changing or we were going our separate ways, and committed to getting in counseling, back in church, and getting things right in our lives and our marriage. I know things tend to 'cycle' with ADHD, and I often question my own feelings and my own beliefs when things head south for us.

Hi everyone im so glad I found this site because I was beginning to buy into my ADHD husbands belief that im a rediculous person for asking him to spend time with me! We have been married 7 years and no kids luckily! I have been thinking about leaving because I am getting lower and lower on his priority list I think. Computer and Internet come first where he spends a lot of time. He doesnt know he spends so much time on there because he has no sense of time at all. He can be on the computer for a whole day, then complain about how he got nothing done!

Hi, I'm the spouse of a person with ADD (no HD).  We know that scheduling and a routine could really help dissolve so many of our ongoing conflicts, hurts, and resentments.  Unfortunately, we've discovered that my husband, who has ADD, cannot stick to any one routine or organization system consistently.  He's very creative and likes to invent his own methods.  That's fine, however, he will continually reinvent new ways each and every time.  For example, around balancing the checkbook.  He doesn't have the patience to learn or be taught the recommended way of doing it so he invented his ow

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago. I have been reading a lot of the information on the site. Some information seems to adjust very well to what we are living, but some doesn't quite fit. My husband has a job which he has kept VERY well. He works hard and is successful. Our family life had always seem fine (13 years). His therapist says he has learned to deal with his condition well, but still has it.

I've been reading a lot of the posts and comments here, I'm amazed by how much ADHD can take over a marriage and encouraged by seeing some folks who are working towards making it work.

I was diagnosed in June 2009.  I will tell anyone that Adderall saved my life.   For 30+ years I felt like I was living in a fog, and now, I feel more normal and more myself than I ever have.  The medication has brought so much clarity.

So what happens when you come out of the fog, and realized that a lot of decisions that you made in the fog (ie, marriage partner) were the wrong ones?

Just married a year, yesterday as a matter of fact and we are separated.  This isn't the first time either, the first time was in November.  I took my husband back under the conditions that he would seek counseling and stop the constant complaining and ignorant comments towards me and my children, but that lasted about a week and gradually progressed into me asking him to leave on the day before Christmas.  So here I sit, not knowing what next........Christmas, New Years and now yesterday our first year anniversary and didn't spend any of it as a family.  He is so stubborn, will not admit