I'm here looking for encouragement, the kind all of us could use sometimes. My ADHD husband and I are separated right now so he can try to take care of himself for a while and get treatment. Mostly he's trying really hard and doing fairly well. It's great that we are separated, because I don't have the discipline to truly let him "sink or swim" and suffer his consequences when the problems are right there in front of me, or I can see them coming from a mile away. Let me give you an example, and hopefully someone will chime in with some encouragement.