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Here's an odd question for the spouses: Have any of you "caught" some of your spouse's ADD behaviors?

When I first met my husband, I was self-sufficient, poised, on top of things, confident, organized, and capable. I wasn't perfect--there was (and is!) tons of room for improvement, and my stress level was pretty high--but I was doing well in my career, I wasn't frantic, I socialized often and successfully, etc.

Well, I just had enough tonight and I left. I just didn´t see any way forward. We had the discussion again about the christmas card (described here, a lengthy entry: http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/not-getting-through#comment-5641). I tried all possible ways to offer an explanation, the easiest one to call my friend and ask why he had taged the envelope with only my name and our sons name. But my spouse didn't want that or any explanation. I was called a liar which I'm not. We had a big fight.

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My husband accepts that ADHD is a real illness but thinks that because I can read/play games etc.

So my husband has finally been formally diagnosed.  We're in the middle of trying to get him a med prescribed that we can actually afford (can't afford Vyvanse for $150 a month!!).  But the problem is, my husband still doesn't know a lot about ADD.  He doesn't like reading, and I verbally tell him things sometimes but I don't get too far without him tuning out.  He'll watch videos, has anyone seen a video on ADD?  Or anyone have any suggestions on how to educate him without him having to read a book?  I'm reading Dr Hallowell's Driven From Distraction right now and I love it!  I SO wish my

I am new to this site, but I have been reading through a lot of the posts and have been finding it very helpful - knowing i am not suffering alone.  My husband of 12 years has recently told me that he is no longer in love with me.  He wishes to remain in our home - separate rooms - to allow his regular access to our children and support me in getting healthy.  He does not wish to work on our marriage, as he says those feelings are no longer there for him.  I have been researching ADD/ADHD, as I was diagnosed approximately 5 years ago (focus for school).  I was not aware how greatly ADHD wou

Not sure where to put this post.  Not even sure what I'm looking for.  But my husband and I are about 10 hours home from a party given by he and his sister for their parents over the weekend.  We got through it, and with some effort and a conscious choice to go with the flow, we even enjoyed ourselves somewhat--definitely enjoyed doing something special for an important occasion.  The rampant AD/HD running through the event made me wonder if anyone could truly, fully enjoy themselves together in this environment.  At one point the nonADDers were outnumbered for many hours, and then when the

My wife is introverted.  I am extroverted.  We have been married 22 years and it's dying before my eyes. 

All these years I have asked for her touch, for a physical acknowledgement of her love for me.  You know, hugs, her hand reaching out to touch mine while were on the couch....etc. 

This problem existed before we got married, it escalated soon afterwards.  Especially after we had 2 kids in a row.

Not sure why I bothered to write this here.  Maybe because I know it is going to end. I just don't know when anymore.

Me and my ADHD partner can't seem to ever be ont he right page. Even when i'm not trying to argue with him, an argument insues somehow. Like today, last night he said I want you to go to the fish market tomorrow and get me fish. I said okay. Then this morning he claims I said the smells makes me naueous and I can't go. But I really didnt say that. He kept trying to get me to say I said it and instead of fighting I ignored him. And he threw something at me and hit me in the head! Then he said it was because i wasn't paying attention to him.

So my ADHD partner decided to take me shopping today. That is usually a thing that makes me happy except when I am shopping with him I cant focus on the things i want to get. First of all he says I am taking you shopping then as soon as we get in the mall he started pointing out things he liked. That made me aggitated. It got even worse when I pulled him to the side and told him I wanted to focus on me. He then started to point out anything in the stores, meaning to me, I dont give a damn. He was really nice and after we left he took me to another store where i just got a dress.