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My wife is introverted.  I am extroverted.  We have been married 22 years and it's dying before my eyes. 

All these years I have asked for her touch, for a physical acknowledgement of her love for me.  You know, hugs, her hand reaching out to touch mine while were on the couch....etc. 

This problem existed before we got married, it escalated soon afterwards.  Especially after we had 2 kids in a row.

Not sure why I bothered to write this here.  Maybe because I know it is going to end. I just don't know when anymore.

Me and my ADHD partner can't seem to ever be ont he right page. Even when i'm not trying to argue with him, an argument insues somehow. Like today, last night he said I want you to go to the fish market tomorrow and get me fish. I said okay. Then this morning he claims I said the smells makes me naueous and I can't go. But I really didnt say that. He kept trying to get me to say I said it and instead of fighting I ignored him. And he threw something at me and hit me in the head! Then he said it was because i wasn't paying attention to him.

So my ADHD partner decided to take me shopping today. That is usually a thing that makes me happy except when I am shopping with him I cant focus on the things i want to get. First of all he says I am taking you shopping then as soon as we get in the mall he started pointing out things he liked. That made me aggitated. It got even worse when I pulled him to the side and told him I wanted to focus on me. He then started to point out anything in the stores, meaning to me, I dont give a damn. He was really nice and after we left he took me to another store where i just got a dress.

I just want to share a website that has some great action ideas to help those with ADD.  I went to a CHADD meeting and the doctor that was faciliating the meeting has some very good pages on her website.  She lists great ideas for those who find organizing an impossible task. She also has helpful tips for add children.  I think there are some people on here who are ready for these ideas.  http://www.addaustin.com/pasttips.html

For those who aren't ready, maybe the partners here can brainstorm ways to introduce these ideas. 

I have been married to my ADHD husband for 5 years and known him for 7. I had a brother who had ADHD as a kid so when we met I felt like I had a good understanding of what kind of problems ADHD would bring to the table. I was so wrong.

i'm so tired. in tears. again. is this ever really going to be "joyful"? i went to the "joys in marriage" topic (or whatever it was called) and found little or no joy anywhere. i love him so much and i know he loves me deeply. in fact, his love includes a lot of clingy attachment. i see so much kindness and wonder in his heart. but i'm really afraid that we are just going to end up hating each other. or...i'm going to crawl out of this pit myself, and be so resentful that we'll split.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  I think that the definition of 1insanity may be that of a person who is married to someone with ADD and hoping that someday, someway, some new treatment will come along and work.  Why does this have to hurt so much!!!  I told myself I was not going to get too hopeful about my husband really wanting to love me and be with me.  He promised, but he has promised for so many years, that this time he was really going to try.  He was going to come to this site and continually gain more insite a

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My wife and I seem to be stuck re: our different communication styles, having the same argument over and over.  I am a non-ADHD introvert, and she is an extrovert with ADHD.  What happens is this:  we start out having a rather nice conversation – at least from my perspective.  I say something, then she responds, then I respond, and so on.  And then, at some point, I realize I am no longer talking and she is talking “non-stop.”  I end up feeling like she is talking AT me rather than TO me or WITH me, and I start thinking “I wish she would just stop talking.”  And I find mys

Like most people on this site, I have been to hell and back with my ADHD spouse.  After much discussion, I believe that he is finally beginning to understand how his ADHD is affecting me.  I am hopeful that I have finally reached him (fingers crossed).  I basically let him know that unless something changed immediately that i was ready to leave the marriage.  He is now trying to learn techniques to make him more empathetic.  He is writing things down so that he doesn't forget.  He's trying to hold himself accountable for delivering on his promises.  He has stopped demanding "over-the-top" s