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I'm going through something that is emotionally devastating to me right now, but that is even worse for my (separated) husband. It involves one of his family members. I don't want to go into too many details, as I believe he may be reading this list from time to time, and I don't want him to know that "BreadBaker" = "my wife."

Let's say that, on a scale of 1 to 10, he's going through something that is a 9. I am going through the same issue, and it's an 8.5. Either way, we're talking about something that is extremely painful, and makes life extremely difficult to navigate.

I've been dating my GF for 6 months now, and she is self proclaimed ADD (No treatment, but willing).  We are very much in love, and so far I am willing to help her and us cope.  I have picked up some slack on chores, and been more proactive with helping her remember details (meetings, appointments, etc...) to try to take some of the "load" off of her and relieve some stress.  I will admit, part of the reason I want to take away some of the stress is so that she can relax long enough to focus on us.  And that is where the problem lies.

(original post deleted...concept was to say something good about your ADD partner.  See reason text was taken out at this link.)

Hello to everyone out there.  I am sitting at my computer, awake because I can't force myself to sleep. I have been crying for the last hour, although it feels like the last decade..and we've only been together six years.  I am crying because despite the ADHD diagnosis, and the fact that one of our children has ADHD, my husband refuses to take any initiative to learn about the disorder that is destroying our lives. In fact, even when I "spoon feed" him the information, he gets angry about me "downloading on him".

I see so many families in ruin, or unhappy marriages, on this site. I can't believe it's all doom and gloom...

While living with attention-deficit is never easy (from either side of the fence), I wanted to take a moment, push the "pause" button on the negativity and sadness, and focus on what we all love about our marriages and our spouses. If you're on this site or this forum, it's for a reason, right? Just like you got married for a reason.

Sigh....feeling such a huge lump in the pit of my stomach...fear?  I don't know...just need a shoulder to lean on right now.

I would appreciate any advice.  I am desperately in love with my girlfriend who has ADHD, recently, and finally diagnosed.  She has grown up believing, and everyone else too, believing that her behavior was just "her."  She's EXTREMELY impulsive, impatient, and inattentive.  She is also the life of every social situation, and a short, drop dead knockout.  Her petite size and beauty (in my opinion) have afforded her certain acceptance and forgiveness for her decisions/actions from everyone. 

Hello,

Does anyone know of a support group for spouses of ADHD, located within reasonable driving distance from the Portland, OR area?

Hello

I have mentioned my story before and its been over a month now that my wife has left and gone to live with her parents with my 2 little children. I continue to go to therapy, take my meds and even going to get a hopefully full psych eval to confirm adhd, that I have been diagnosed with, and maybe even add more things to it.

Hi, I just found this site and started reading peoples posts. It brings me confort to know i'm not the only person dealing with a spouse diagnosed with ADD. I've been married for over 10yrs and always new there was something wrong with my relationship with my husband. He is a very passive person and avoids conflict if at all possible. We do not communicate well at all. I', constantly reminding him about what weve talked about plans weve made and soooo on.