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Why is it so tough to figure out what to do with leisure time or, more-to-the-point, "non-work" time?  Certainly I am challenged at work (Organization, decision-making, and short-term memory are daily struggles) but the real issue for me (and my wife of 36 years) is what happens (or more accurately, what does not happen) during my week-ends and other days off, never mind vacations.   

I'm new here.  I am a husband with highly suspected but undiagnosed ADD.  For 15 years I have been torturing my wife.  I want to stop.  It is so hard to write this because I have no clue what I am doing.  I am a trial lawyer.  I have been extremely successful, but untile recently I did not know what caused me to miss many deadlines and cause problems with my clients>  It takes all my energy all day to complete the tasks that I have to at work.  I zone in and out and jump from one exciting task to another.  I have written boards that help me through the day. 

Well I guess that anyone who have read my prior post know that my marriage was in danger due to my 36 years of not knowing I had ADHD, Well it won, my wife is leaving me, and to make matters worse she had a affair. I know that we must move on and to keep on our med's so we can still improve our self but I feel like my whole life is gone. Im not only losing a wife but im loseing a family, we have to children togeather and I wont be able to tuck them in evry night or kiss there them when there hurt, Im not sure I can survive this and its only getting worse.

Hi

Although iam not married to my boyfriend ( who is 44yrs old ) i searched the web and discovered this web site and could relate to a lot off the posts so hope i can post here ?

I have had 3 yrs with him and its a rollercoaster ride which i seriously need to get off for my own health , i can be up there in the happy place for say 2 wks then he will pull the rug from beneath me with his tantrums & childish behaviour throwing his teddy in the corner if things dont go all his way or the way he wants !

I am at the end of my rope, and am not sure if my husband's behavior is related to his ADHD/Depression. Here is the story: My husband has a "good" day 10-25% of the time (one to three days a month). A good day is one where he can communicate without being defensive, where he is not depressed and so can fulfil plans, where he doesn't accuse me of trying to control him, etc. We have been in marriage counseling fo awhile, and I have come to realize that he might be incapable of learning these skills.

Honey, are you listening?

I think that the most illuminating thing is that there are few (no?) joyful posts in the Joy in Marriages with ADHD forum.

Reading these posts and Melissa's commentary makes me think that her experience is clearly the exception and not the rule.

My husband can't decide ANYTHING! When we got to be friends while working together, I waited and waited for him to ask me out, but he never did, until I finally gave up and asked him out. (BIG mistake!)

I have reached my limit and although we are not married, we have been together for 7 years, have one child and one on the way ( I am 8 months pregnant).  I am leaving about one month after we have the baby, and we have discussed this.  The first time I tried to talk to him about it he was predictably angry.  He probably has no meaningful recollection of the reasons why I am leaving and unfortunately I can't really care too much anymore, I have a 3 year old and soon a newborn to care for.

When I was diagnosed last year as an adult male 51 years old with ADHD I thought at last I have an explanation for what I have been going through and inflicting on others. I dutifully took medication that turned me into a zombie but I found that work wise I was not doing well at all and stopped the meds. My behaviour in terms of frustration and anger had changed and I was less partial to meltdown with the meds.