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My wife had her first meeting with a real adult ADHD expert (a local CHADD leader) on September 3.  I completed the questionaires she gave me an sent them in by September 17 (my wife did not forward them to we for several days after she received them).

My wife finally completed her answers on Monday, October 19.  I scanned them at work the next day and sent them in.

It took lots of reminders on my part.  I even contacted the expert and she sent a followup to my wife about completing the forms. 

Hi, I'm so sad and desperate for help and found this forum. I've been with my husband for 6 years, married for 2. We had a great relationship (while not perfect but had normal minor fights that were typical of any couple) up until the summer of 2019 where he began to change. He began taking Vyvance (30mg) and then added Adderall (40mg) because the Vyvance would wear out too quickly. 

Hey all I'm new to this site but so glad I found it. My son is ten months old and as we've gotten more responsibilities my husbands adhd has become more of an issue. He was recently diagnosed but states he is taking his meds when I know he isn't. My husband has no idea how much I think about separation because I can't communicate with him. He either blames me for pretty much everything, states I just want to change him or he doesn't talk or respond at all. I'm so lost lonely and confused.

"It'll be fine."

I hear this about so many life issues.  From tax questions to health concerns to car maintenance to issues with kids to... yeah.

His way is to say that it will be fine and do nothing.  And then when later it isn't fine, he's angry that he has to take time to fix it or spend the chunk of money to fix it.

My husband and I have been married for ten years. He has a 14 year old daughter from a previous marriage, I have a son of the same age, and we have a 6 year old daughter together. He is not taking any form of medication or therapy.

Over the time we have been together, it has been a struggle for me to deal with his lack of reliability and inconsistency and it has gotten progressively worse. I no longer feel happy in our marriage.

I wanted to reach out today and give you all a big virtual hug.

All of your posts are hitting home with me, especially the ones where your spouses recall things differently from what they actually were. I had this happen with my ex-husband.

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Hi, friends. This forum has been a great support over the years. You might recall that my ex (we've been divorced for four years) is in the "likes to do things himself, doesn't want to spend money" camp. I'm dealing with one of the results of this today. I'm finally getting the gutters replaced on the house, which I got in the divorce. The gutters are in terrible shape (not just my opinion; I heard one of the workers say this), and the project will cost about $6,500. Ouch! This has revived my anger at my ex a little bit, but so far, I'm doing relatively well all things considered.

"If you love someone else more than yourself, you will always compromise too much, ignore the red flags, get hurt, and lose yourself in your relationships."

I know that my husband has ADHD, but he does not. I am trying to figure out how to talk to him about this diagnosis. I can say he has it with confidence because I am a psychotherapist. This only makes it harder to talk to him about social and emotional issues because he does not want me using my "therapy" on him. How do I get this information into his brain? It is at the core of our marriage difficulties and after 35+ years of marriage, I am not sure we will make it one more.