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  • Apology is for them, forgiveness for you.
    by: adhd32 - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Forgiveness is done for you by you. You accept that they are incapable of being the person you need.  You stop wishing and hoping things were different and accept that they have extreme limitations.  These limitations will forever prevent them from changing enough to meet your minimum expectations for a good partner.  And that is okay, you are allowed to have standards for how you want to live and be treated.  It is just that for whatever reason, they are incapable of changing their behavior and fight...
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  • Bad Faith Cancer
    by: Kaththee - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    We don't know enough about her situation to make those judgments. If she is counting on her children to take care of her through cancer, chances are they aren't in kindergarten and many situations could necessitate a cancer conversation.  She could have had a few bad pap smears in a row.  She might have been handed scary CAT scan.  She might have a sister and/or mother with breast cancer. Recently I have had more than one discussion with my children about the possibility  of my having cancer...
    >>> on Forum topic - Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!

  • The fact you typed this reality, is good....
    by: c ur self - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Chaos is what I hear when reading your post...My now ex wife (just divorced after 17 years) was high level ADD...I would like to point out a few things, hopefully without offending you...(definitely not my intention)...Nothing I'm going to say here exonerates your husband from his role and responsibilities... One) nothing in the home will ever work correctly (and you two have a load of responsibilities)  if the marriage isn't the first priority (each other)...It's never me and him...That is...
    >>> on Forum topic - Am I the bad person?

  • Not Helping
    by: Orbital Seattlite - 5 months 2 weeks ago
    There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient (link removed) The Empathy/Systemising Quotient deals with the degree of emotional engagement vs systemising - an analytical...
    >>> on Forum topic - Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!

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