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Does any of this trigger anything for any of you spouses of ADDers? It was part of an article in The Atlantic.   

Hi everyone,

I found a tiny but affordable place to rent and I signed a lease. I'm moving out in 2 weeks. I bought a dependable car. It made me sad. I returned it yesterday. I'm buying a convertible today. I may have lost my mind. But I am happy and I feel free. ❤ Last night I realized that I have so much more energy lately because I am no longer managing his life for him. I send him one text a day re: our child's schedule. I no longer remind him about anything else. I no longer spend hours researching and  reading about strategies to help him with his executive function issues. I am not healed yet.

I’ve posted here before, but only a couple of times. My wife has ADD. We’ve been married for 20 years and we battled her ADD ever since. As we get older, she’s 68 and I’m 70, her ADD is getting much worse, as well as her denial, forgetfulness, inattention, lack of compassion, messy ness, etc.  I owned my consulting business before we married and she gladly came into the business and took over the accounting. Very, very often she simply cannot get herself going.

Hi all,

I had a miscarriage on mother's day this year. I'm 34 and I never thought I wanted to be a mother so badly after it. I am with an adhd man, known him for 10 years and we've been together for almost 8. Now, after the miscarriage I've been wanting to see that same desired to want a child in him, but whenever I asked he would only answer "whenever you want we can start to get it on". But I was never like "I want one to with you", he is waiting for my comand and it makes me feel uncomfortable knowing this. Last night we had a talk again about haveing kids.

My husband and I recently got into an argument over where to spend Christmas this year. Previously, we had agreed to go to my in-laws’ house for Thanksgiving and then stay up here, near my parents, for Christmas. I thought this was more than fair since last year we went to my in-laws for both holidays due to the fact that a family member had passed down there recently and his side of the family needed more comfort and emotional support. In 2017, we visited my parents for Christmas and he acted terribly.

delated

I've known this man for most of my life -- since high school, and we are in our late 50's now. We began an intimate relationship in 2001 that ended in 2006 with me wandering away confused and hurt after 4 years of truly bizarre behavior on his part (much of which I documented in writing then, and could have been written today). We reunited in 2018, and things seemed much better for a few months until the same behavior resurfaced.

My 20 year marriage has died largely as a result of undiagnosed ADHD/Autism spectrum (high-functioning) on the part of my spouse, along with the coping and camouflaging, and the PTSD she surely experienced as a child growing up in an undiagnosed ADHD/Narcissist/Histrionic/Anxiety/OCD household (her parents and siblings).  We have two adolescent children.  Her denial strategies are deep, deeper than our marriage.