ADHD diagnosis aftermath for a “NON” spouse
In Melissa's articles I read that spouse being diagnosed with ADHD is going to provide insight and path to improving relationships. Basically, it is supposed to give HOPE.
In Melissa's articles I read that spouse being diagnosed with ADHD is going to provide insight and path to improving relationships. Basically, it is supposed to give HOPE.
It's been just over a year since everything came to a head with my ADHD-husband, and we started actively working on our many issues. I'm happy to report that significant progress has been made in that time. We still have a long way to go, but both my husband's words and actions are making me feel hopeful for the first time in a long time. The basics of our story... we have been married over a decade and have a child we both adore. My husband has trouble managing alcohol, and it's had negative consequences for us over the years.
I'm new to this forum - my partner and I were never married. We both have liked each other for 5 years and finally started dating seriously about 6 months ago. I have anxiety and my partner has ADHD. The first 5 months he was hyper focused on the relationship - he quickly told me he loved me and always made time for me. Then about a month ago there was a sudden shift - we barely saw each other and it seemed like he had time for everything else but me.
By way of introduction, my SO and I have been married over 20 years. I'm the non-ADD partner, and it wasn't until one of our children was diagnosed that we started to realise SO might have ADD as well (about 10 years ago).
Hey everyone, first time posting in here. I am halfway through reading the adhd effect book and I am so happy to know there are solutions. My husband has Adhd and I don't we have been married for 2.5 years and together for 8. I fell in love with him because of his adhd really, he's so passionate and fearless and great storyteller he's so extreme in everything he does and I've always loved it. We knew his adhd was becoming more of a serious problem when his driving became dangerous. He was very distracted and we had many close calls, then his road rage became out of control.
Non Wife of an ADHD husband. HSP. Me.
This Devil Bear comic reminds me of our house.
The link above bring's up the current comic. The one I wanted to display was posted on November 3, 2019. You can go to that date in the archive.
First, some background. Last spring, our diagnosed ADHD son/daughter (recently came out as transgender, but this background also covers the period before that) wanted to be emancipated and to move to another state to live with internet contacts. I feared this was internet grooming. He (at the time) missed a lot of school and wound up failing most of his classes for the final marking period. He also ran away one time after arguing with my wife while I was out of town. The police were involved in looking for him. In September, I took him to a gaming convention. He would not return to t
Being married for 12 years, 8 of those my husband is diagnosed with ADHD, he takes meds for it and said they help him focus at work. As I feel, meds had no effect on our steadily declining relationship. I only found out ADHD has an effect on marriage a couple of months ago and as I was reading ( all I could find on web) Everything clicked:( his very typical symptoms, patterns, progression. I'm devastated. He's in complete denial about his ADHD effect. Actually he said " all past marriage problems we had are Your Fault, I was just present ".
Last night, my wife suggested ordering out and asked me if I could pick it up. OK.
I looked at the menu and told her what I wanted. The kids were still deciding, so I said I would go to the store for some things we needed and then I could pick it up.