Hello everybody, I'm new here. I'm 37 years old, married for almost 7 years with a newly diagnosed (only a couple of months) adhd husband, mother of a beautiful 6 year old girl and currently pregnant of a second child.
Hi all. My name is Tim. I currently live in London, UK and am approaching my 60th birthday. I found this forum after finishing "The" book.
Husband is on his 3rd Psychiatrist and 2nd therapists within a year. He meets the DSM-IV criteria for ADHD, and per my observation has little if any hyperactivity symptoms, but off the charts on Inattentive type. The Psychiatrist have use the typical DSM-IV questions and over all spent on average of 20 mins first visit and 15 per follow up visits. One of the Psychiatrist even told him... "I dont believe there is such thing as Adult ADHD, but am prescribing you vyvanse to help with your focus"
I’m writing to describe what I went through with my ADHD wife through my serious illness. When it was finally diagnosed that I had to have heart valve replacement surgery my wife’s oblivious cruel streak came out. All this happened before we knew, at age 58, that she is very likely ADHD. Anyway, the very evening after getting home from the hospital, having undergone diagnostic angiography, she tells me that she doesn't want to deal with my ‘anxiety’ around the whole thing and that she was looking at apartments and possibly moving out.
Hello everyone I'm Ron
It's been 7 months since I've asked my husband to move out of our apartment to try a therapeutic separation. Aggressiveness was really high (shouting at me and at our 4 year-old kid,...) and I thought that was the last resort to try and save our marriage...
New here and this is my first post...
I am a non- ADHD spouse and have been struggling terribly in my marriage the past 5 to 6 years. I have been stuck in a cycle of manipulation by my husband and he has not been willing to address any of it. I believe he is a good person, but he manipulates me, violates my privacy and we do not trust each other. I won’t list all the details...
Does any of this trigger anything for any of you spouses of ADDers? It was part of an article in The Atlantic.
Hi everyone,
I found a tiny but affordable place to rent and I signed a lease. I'm moving out in 2 weeks. I bought a dependable car. It made me sad. I returned it yesterday. I'm buying a convertible today. I may have lost my mind. But I am happy and I feel free. ❤ Last night I realized that I have so much more energy lately because I am no longer managing his life for him. I send him one text a day re: our child's schedule. I no longer remind him about anything else. I no longer spend hours researching and reading about strategies to help him with his executive function issues. I am not healed yet.
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