We have been married for 13 years and my husband has ADHD-inattentive type. It is like living with an Alzheimer's patient. Scary part is his mother past away from Alzheimer's.
Hello all, I've been seeing this guy for about a month, and we've been exclusive a couple weeks. In the beginning I was blown away by the attention and sensitivity he showed towards me. Our connection felt otherworldly, it was like love at first sight, something I had never experienced before and was never expecting to find. He told me pretty much right from the start about his ADHD, in addition to depression, and I didn't give it much thought. I guess I was incredibly ignorant. My perception of ADD/ADHD was of the rambunctious child in the classroom who couldn't sit still.
NON ADHD spouse in Denial
My husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD, on the heels of having our 5 year old son diagnosed as well. After some acceptance of his overall diagnosis and a lot of pushback on the treatment end, my husband is slowly coming around to recognizing he needs to work on things. While he has done well career-wise, he's in denial that seeking treatment for his ADHD could drastically improve things at home. We are participating in Melissa Orlov's ADHD in Marriage seminar via phone and he seems to be somewhat coming to terms with having to work on things. I've already told my husband that this
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I think this particular piece of advice from this forum could easily apply to all sectors of married life.
"The goal is to be the best people we can be...and see if this keeps us married. You don't want to remain married at all costs (that's the "old" way)" ~Melissa Orlov~
I choose to believe my ADHD spouse and I are both working on that.
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Where to begin? Ahh, perhaps the beginning:
I was diagnosed with ADD in my mid-20s when I only had two toddlers and was a navy wife stationed hundreds of miles from family, friends, and support. I was overwhelmed and not keeping up with domestic tasks. I was placed on Adderall with no therapies. It raised my BP so my PCM placed me on wellbuterin. That gave me migraines. After becoming frustrated with my PCM over constant ineffective med changes and all the side effects that came with them, I gave up and learned to cope on my own.
Husband's problems with ADHD nearly killed our cat and could have potentially hurt us and the pets in multiple situation
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