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This has become part of my daily existence and has now become my simple philosophy to follow on a daily basis.  It is my bible so to speak since it is such a simple set of rules to follow.  Having ADHD presents a different set of challenges for someone like me and one of them is getting mired down with too much information and being  easily overwhelmed by too much dogmatic thinking in general.  So many opinions, so many different ways to do things and so many different ways to see things?  What is right and what is wrong?  Who knows these answers and who is right?  It can be very confusing

I feel I'm frankly at the point where I am ready to file for divorce.  I feel like I've lost myself.  I think I've felt like that our whole relationship.  I am sick of feeling like I am his mother.  I am sick of my needs always coming last.  I am sick of feeling so alone.  I am sick of feeling unsupported and taken advantage of.  Most of all, I am sick of being lied to.  My husband has a porn addiction.  He is always on the brink of addiction with alcohol or anything else that will "numb the pain."  He hadn't been watching porn (at least to my knowledge) for a four months.  He started watch

I'm new here, so bear with me. I've been in a relationship with my ADHD bf for 11 years. We've had a lot of the common ADHD issues, like communication problems, forgetfulness, failure to follow through etc. But I think the one issue that has been the hardest for me to deal with is lying. I guess I can't really be sure when the lying began, but it started causing problems while we were in college. He would lie about things that I'm guessing a lot of guys lie to their girlfriends about, like drinking too much or hanging out with *certain* people, that I would disapprove of.

Here is an article from Additude magazine about coping techniques for wives with husbands that have ADHD.  http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-web/article/658.html. I hope the link works.  I follow their page on facebook and get really good articles for adults and kids.

What are the options for children and adults when they come to the realization that their day to day lives are being lived in a irresponsible manner?

1) Continue to ignore it. (This is as for as it gets for most who have no mirror i.e. (parent, spouse, teacher's, friends).

Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome.

Wifeafraid, I am so sorry you are going through all these things you listed on your first post. I am starting a new thread after realizing these comments would have hijacked your thread in a different direction.  I hope you find a road to wellness soon and that you doctor is a good one that can help sort things out that is going on with you.  

Hi everyone,

I am a 28yo woman and finally have comes to terms I may have ADHD. But I am so afraid of going to the doctor for fear I will be called an idiot like I have been called my entire life.

My husband made an appointment for me this week knowing I wanted one but was afraid to. I'm hoping if I blurt of everything here first that perhaps someone living this way can tell me if I am just crazy, or realistically may have this condition. I guess so I can calm down a bit for the appointment if that makes any sense at all? lol

Hello Everyone:

I am so happy to have found this forum. I've been reading it for a few weeks now and feel amazed at the bravery and honesty of what I've been reading.

I'm writing because I just asked my H to leave today. I packed up his belongings and told him to call his parents to pick him up. He's gone now. The house is quiet - and I feel sad - but happy. 

I have learned this:

When dh is not doing what is expected, let's say it is to sign a tax form that needs his signature, I must say, "Here is the 2015 personal tax form.  Sign here please."  Look him in the eye and hand him a pen and the form.

I don't say, "The tax form is on the kitchen counter, will you sign them please so they can get in the mail?"

I don't say, "When will you sign the tax forms? They have been on the counter for 5 days."

I don't say, "Let's do the taxes together.  What day would you be available to that with me?"