We truly have sacraficed a lot for their sanity and rescued them. You must listen to this song on You Tube.
Shooting Star by Harry Chapin
He was crazy of course
From the first she must have known it
But still she went on with him
And she never once had shown it
And she took him off the streets
And she dried his tears of grievin'
She listened to his visions
She believed in his believin'
My husband has ADHD and anxiety and depression. He chose to become his elderly parents' full-time, 24/7 caregiver a few years ago. Bad idea. The depression has gotten worse. I'm concerned about him. He's resistant to getting help. Last night, I looked up mental health clinics in the town where he lives with his parents (150 miles from our home, his old therapist, etc.). This morning, I called him and said that I am strongly encouraging him to get mental health treatment and that I would be mailing him information.
I found this site earlier tonight via Google searches. Searches like "husband is never wrong" "husband won't accept an opposing opinion because he's never wrong" "husband insists everyone is against him", including wife and father in law who would never interfere unless it was a last resort and oh the search list could go on and on.
My husband had a junior-high diagnosis of ADD that he blew off at the time--hey, every restless boy had ADD in the '90s, right?
Just need to vent, caveat, I love my spouse very much and would kill the devil for her but she has a tendency to drive me insane sometimes. I am the one with ADHD, and I understand how difficult it is to live with someone with ADHD, I am not an easy person to live with all the time and I tell her this, and thank her for all she does for me, but I forget something after n number of reminders, all hell breaks loose.
I ran across an article of this topic which is one I am still learning more about. The one thing that I do know for sure is that this is one of those things that is hard not to notice sometimes especially with anger. That seems to be the problematic one that everyone can see including us (ADHD'ers) when that happens. But as I have now come to understand better....this is directly related to executive functioning and the ability to control your emotions. As it is stated very well in this article...the emotional responses may be appropriate to the situation....but the response or how they
Pompous and arrogant or just confident? So months ago I saw that one of my fave singers would be in town. I splurged on tickets and invited my husband since, after all, we are married. I would have loved to take my girlfriend or sister. I wondered what the "date" would be like, if he would be irritable and ruin it all. Well, the day came, yesterday and I had all planned, printed out directions and picked a great place to eat. First thing he asked is how do we get there. He got irritable when I had directions he was unfamiliar with. I thought, here it goes.
An amazing thing happened over dinner a couple of nights ago. J Jamieson had been talking recently about denial - and how tricky or impossible it is to get into some topics when denial is at play. He had suggested going through the back door so that the denial is not openly confronted - allowing your partner to feel safe and not attacked. I couldn't tangibly get the concept but it has stuck in my mind. So back to dinner.
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