So yesterday I came home from a work trip, having been gone a week, only to discover that my husband had been texting with an old girlfriend. These texts were what he calls "harmless flirtations" - but I call establishing a social media relationship with an old flame. The texts went well beyond minor flirting and into a level of intimacy and of a sexual nature that are totally inappropriate.
Everyone was so helpful here last time I asked a question so I thought I would post again. What is your experience with either the way you, or your partner who has ADHD deals with difficult subjects, or handles arguments?
So last time I wrote anything on here was March 20 when I wrote that my husband decided to go in for alcohol treatment after not going to work for 3 weeks and not telling me why. So he had 2 weeks of treatment and came home and all seemed well. He was happy and he told me he was going to work on Monday. Well Monday turned into Tuesday and then Tuesday turned into Wednesday and once again the excuses as to why he couldn't go in happened. Finally that Friday he returned to work. He tells me that night when he gets home that they are saying he is unexcused for one of the weeks he was out.
My husband and son are currently receiving neurofeedback (NFB) treatments for their ADHD. We live in the boonies and couldn't find a professional NFB trainer within 300 miles so we rented a home machine for $800 a month. Some insurance providers will cover the cost. Renting is actually much cheaper when you consider how many treatments a family can do in one month as opposed to $80+ per treatment from a professional.
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I'l bet that got your attention.
As I've mentioned before, my 60 year old H doesn't just have ADHD. He has ADHD, OCD, maybe OCPD, likely Borderline PD, anxiety, depression and he's an alcoholic (semi-active). He would also mismanage his meds a LOT until he finally gave them to me to manage....but a couple of times he has snuck into the meds and taken add'l ones. No matter where I hide them, he finds them.
Hello. This is my first time posting though I have been reading for a while. I have been engaged to a diagnosed ADHD man for 18 months and we are just under two months from the wedding date. We have been together for a total of 6 years and have lived together for the last year.
Please excuse any flubs. I'm typing on my cell phone.
Hi, everyone, my name is Rebecca and I believe my spouse may have ADD or ADHD. After being married for five years (not a first marriage for either of us) I am completely at a loss to understand some of his behavior. I feel like a tornado touches down sometimes with no warning at all. I am exhausted and hope, by reading some of the information here, to learn some types of skills that I can use to cope with this situation. I don't want to leave him but honestly, I can't see living another 20-30 years this way.
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