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First post - so here goes.

Was diagnosed about a year or two ago.

Started out with one Adderall XR during the day, and saw improvement, but I think there could be more.  I asked to switch to regular Adderall because there is a generic form and it was much cheaper - $10/mo vs about $100.  Similar results there.

About a month ago my doc and I agreed that I could bump it up to 20mg 3x a day.  Oh, I'm 34, 6'3" 270lbs.  This helped with not being completely exhausted when I got home, and helps me with family time after work.

Hello, this is my first post, and I am new to the concept of ADD and its impact on our family. My wife (of 14 years) has very recently been diagnosed with ADD Inattentive type - though she does not accept it openly (I believe in her heart she knows it to be true). For me this was a revelation. I asked the ADD specialist who diagnosed my wife, to recommend books to help me understand the condition. My goal, to be better able to deal with the impact ADD has on me, my two young boys, and to be able to support my wife and be the best husband I can possibly be.

My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years.  We have 4 children - oldest 14, youngest 5.  We are both professionals, but I have been at home with the kids for quite some time.  As his job had more demands, he struggled to get it all done.  With some encouragement, he has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on medication for just over a year - vyvanse.  Starting last summer, I noticed that he was more angry and was spending more time away, particularly away from me although he has also spent less time with our kids.  When I asked him in the fall what was going on, he said that

I feel l have learned so much about ADD since last summer when a counselor first suggested it might be a fit for my dh. As many others, I associated ADD with hyperactive kids. Inattentive subset fits my dh to a T. When I subsequently read Melissa's book I felt like I was reading my memoir. Our youngest son, now eight, fits the description as well. I homeschool him and learning about ADD has changed how I handle his symptoms -- his distractibility; extreme emotional responses unwarranted for the situation; impulsivity; etc.

I have a question about letting go.  I am new here, and I have not read any books or anything yet.

I keep hearing about not trying to be logical in a completely illogical situation.... just not to engage in the debate.

I do feel like I have done this in the past, not as a tool, but because I really believed him when it was turned around on me.... but it did still happen.  I thought everything was my fault.

I have been sick the past week.  I'm feeling better now, but I realize just how much my partner cannot be there for me and actually makes the bumps in the road of life even harder than they have to be.  Here's just some of the things I've had to deal with this past week:

Not eating for 4 days because I was too sick to make food, literally could not stand up in the kitchen to prepare anything, because my "partner" refused to make me food or bring me anything.

Yes, there are times that it happens. The spouse who is supposed to be your best friend, who communicates with you, seeks to understand you, is passionate about investing in connecting to you in every possible way, when she has ADHD, often forgets that you even exist.  

This is my very first time on this website AND talking about my husband's ADHD. He was never diagnosed until after he married me, and began taking medication about 6 months ago (just started Adderall a couple days ago) and is also on an anti depressant/anxiety. We have been married almost 2 years. I am 38 and about to graduate as a respiratory therapist in May (previously a preschool teacher), and my husband is 40 and an architect (not one that makes 6 figures however :) - common assumption). We started trying for a baby in January (if you can call sex twice in 1 month trying).

I am dreading our 19th wedding anniversary this summer...just like I dread Valentine's Day, his birthday, and Christmas around him.  I just want it ALL to go away...as it relates to him.  I have been married to a man who points fingers at everyone else.  It's ALWAYS someone else's fault.  Honestly, I can't make up my mind if it's ADHD, Narcisstic Personality Disorder, Depression…or a combination of all three.  What I DO know is our relationship (if you can call it that) is toxic.  We have three boys (ages 9, 12, and 13), all of whom want their Dad to “go away”.  My oldest son feels this ver

Hello, this is my first post, and I am new to the concept of ADD and its impact on our family. My wife (of 14 years) has very recently been diagnosed with ADD Inattentive type - though she does not accept it openly (I believe in her heart she knows it to be true). For me this was a revelation. I asked the ADD specialist who diagnosed my wife, to recommend books to help me understand the condition. My goal, to be better able to deal with the impact ADD has on me, my two young boys, and to be able to support my wife and be the best husband I can possibly be.