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Anyone here who can share their experience of being the non-ADHD and if reading the book and doing the non-ADHD partner support group helped them in the long run? And I'm not talking about if it saved your marriage or relationship....I'm talking about for YOU specifically. Did it help you get to a better place for yourself and perhaps a knock on effect was your kids? And creating a better environment for them too? 

I am fearful of bringing up difficult subjects, because it often devolved into explosive tirades.  Also, the weight of being the "capable one" is becoming unbearable.

How to set boundaries when you need rest and your spouse asks you a million questions and has expectations all the time? 

I (35M ADHD) and my husband (35M non-adhd) have been together 10 years, 5 married. 

We have been going through the same issues for years. What do I do differently?

Please Help. 

Hello. I am really struggling with what to do. I am married to an ADHD partner and we have young kids. My partner has been out of adderall for a week, since they missed an appointment with their prescriber. (this is not the first time this has happened, and I suspect that my partner is probably using up all their chances with this prescriber). For the first 5 days, my partner said they hadn't heard back from the prescriber.

I spend lots of time and energy adapting my world-view and approach-to-life to better fit with my wife and son, both of whom have ADHD.  I have learned a lot about how ADHD people think and I use that knowledge fairly well.  But it's really just me doing that work.  They don't seem to have the ability to understand the impacts they're having on me.  That was a big focus from The ADHD Effect on Marriage so nothing new there.

My question is: Do ADHD people have the capacity to put themselves in the shoes of a non-ADHD person?

The ADHD person's self-focus seems to be the overwhelming factor that drives the biggest problems for others.  Will they ever think of me first, like I am always doing for them?