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Hello All-

I am looking for some advice on how to handle a partner with severe ADHD and RSD. 

Hi All,

Just wondering if anyone else partner has Sensory Processing Disorder, my husband told me again last night that he has it. He says he has been telling me for years, but I'm finally listening to him. 

If so how do you handle it and are there any books to read up on it. 

Thanks, 

Kosty

Hi,

Husband refuses to even consider that ADD is a problem in our marriage.  It has come to the point that if he texts he will be home in 10 minutes that may mean 10 minutes or an hour so I no longer trust what he tells me. It came to a head yesterday and rather than take ownership, he asked why I did not contact him to confirm his arrival time.  No more!  I am done covering and making HIS life easier due to his choices.

As a follow-up to what I posted last year about my husband's ADHD... He has since been diagnosed with a few other things, so basically, he has ADHD, MDD, Anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and most recently, Intermittent Explosive Disorder, and Alcoholism. He is going through extensive therapy and is on meds, but our marriage is over. It all came to a head on Christmas night when he drank too much and turned into a monster. He was literally out of his mind and crazed/combative, yelling at me and my sister and brother-in-law in the middle of the night UNPROVOKED.

My husband's default excuse or argument is always that he "forgot." 
 

It is always he couldn't do the dishes because he always forgets. He didn't do laundry because he forgot. He didn't call the school to let them know one of the kids was home sick because he forgot. he wasn't ready on time to go because he forgot. 
 

I'm a 57 yr old man diagnosed w ADHD in my forties. I've been married 14 years and we have a 12 yr old daughter. This is the first marriage for both of us. In the beginning, our vast differences (her type A personality and my left brain ADHD) were complimentary and sometimes funny. We even worked together for a few years at my creative agency. But after about 5 years, as the household and familial challenges increased, our differences began to divide us.

Is it normal to experience ups and downs in terms of ADHD symptoms?

My husband is in denial but almost certainly has ADHD, but there are periods of time, especially after an especially big screw up but, also just in general, where he exhibits better control (or is it just masking?) of his symptoms.