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It's been brought up before as to whether or not ADHD in a relationship should be considered as and treated the same as any other kind of disability.  Many have questioned whether it would be a moral failure to leave someone with ADHD since they wouldn't likely leave a spouse who became paralyzed or was stricken with a disease.  To me the answer is very tricky.  Firstly, no one is suddenly stricken with ADHD as an adult.  It is something the person will have been struggling with their whole life whether they were/are aware of it or not.  Also, people with ADHD often develop coping mechanism

This is my first time posting. I'm really nervous to put anything out there because sometimes the things I think (after I type them) just seem silly, but I need some advice on ways to let go of being angry, upset, frustrated, etc.

I realized this past week after spending Christmas apart from my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years that there are certain things  I'm just not going to be able to do the same way anymore.  They weren't getting me anywhere anyhow.  I realized  first and foremost that because I was so tired of being upset all the time I'd started rationalizing all the upsetting things he was doing just so I wouldn't feel the need to get upset, example:  He often arbitrarily takes my car places instead of his without asking, leaving me with no transportation because I can't drive his car (stick shift) among my

I am not married, but in a serious relationship with an ADHD partner.  I can see myself married to him someday if the relationship gets there.   I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this forum.  I read Dr. Hallowell's "Delivered From Distraction" and it gave me so very much.   All of my instincts were so validated.  Everyone should read it if you have not.  What you may be thinking is red flag behavior is not with ADHD.   I want to share all that I embrace about him AND his ADHD.  I think it makes things better, not worse.  I never ever want him to "change".

I believe that ADHD can be exacerbated by specific events and general life stages.  I used to think that it was a coincidence that my husband's problems seemed to get worse when my daughters became preteens and that his problems have continued to be worse as they have grown into young adulthood.  Now I'm starting to think that this is one of those life stages that, by challenging his parenting abilities, has worsened his ADHD and related conditions.

I'm an ADHD husband and I'm slightly uncomfortable posting here b/c so many of you have so much frustration with your ADHD husbands. Please understand from the outset that I acknowledge my ADHD and struggle with it every day. I work with my wife to limit the damage as much as I can (giving up my computer games for several months, password protecting the TV set) and try to create habits that are helpful (dishes / counters / laundry).  I am ADHD-PI -- primarily inattentive.

I just read the book and am shocked at how well it describes my marriage. I have been with my husband for 30 years; married for 21. And it's always been the same. He has never been officially diagnosed with ADHD, but he will admit that he probably has it. He's not overly assertive about trying to get help. The whole courtship thing doesn't really apply to  us, but the parent-child relationship part hits it on the head. I often feel alone (like I am living with a roommate) and I'm in charge of everything.

Christmas Day. I realize any plans and schedules I have made may need to be re-arranged. I won't be angry today.  Whatever happens, happens.  Nothing is a necessity other than being welcoming and attentive to others today.

First off, I truly want our marriage to work! We have been together for almost a decade and married for half a year. I'm pregnant with our first child. Just found out he had been calling and texting Craigslist-type sex ads. This isn't the first time (2nd) and there have been other trust issues as well. I don't know if it ever progressed to more than phone calls and text. He is undiagnosed but now has an appt to be tested. We are going back to couples therapy. I really need hope from other couples who have survived from infidelity.

Hello All:

Unlike what seems to be the majority, I'm a male non-ADD spouse of a female ADD person.

We've got a great marriage in every other respect, and she is on meds, etc. Generally the meds and treatment seem to be enough to keep her functional in her job and as a mom, but there's one thing that's still driving me to distraction and I find myself becoming increasingly resentful. I should say that in every other way she's a wonderful, loving, caring person, and the last thing I want to do is anything that would put our relationship in jeopardy.