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Advice for helping my husband and son get organized

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Hi everyone,

I would like to try to help my husband and son get organized. I think that with some more structure in our lives and home, they would function better. My husband struggles with setting up structure because he never feels it is good enough, but he said he would be willing to use a structure that I set up for him in the absence of something perfect! 

Separation tips? Restraining order for talking/whining/blaming/political ranting? I'm fed up & exhausted.

Hi everyone.

I haven't been posting much since my initial start with this online forum, nor even been reading much.

I can't stand him. (Him being my ADD husband.) We have made zero progress. I am so fed up. Exhausted.

I just want him to be quiet!!!!!

Feeling fed up and quiet

I looked for this forum out of sheer desperation.  I am SOOOOOOOOOOO... fed up with my husband.  I am not even sure if/how much I care anymore.  I didn't get married until my late 40s and had been a single, independent, professional woman until then.  I adopted a couple of children along the way on my own and our life was good - not perfect, but comfortable.  I married to enhance my life and share it with someone.  What I have gotten instead is a whirlwind of chaos, embarrassment and shame in this sham of a marriage.  It feels crazy.

Sports Drinks

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Holy Cow, I just had a light bulb moment.  My ADHD BF normally pounds tripple, tripple coffee, sports drinks or in the evening has a couple of drinks.  I despise the chemical taste of sports drinks and about three weeks ago asked him if he noticed that whenever he drinks them we ended up in a spat.  I didn't realize until right now, he has actually stopped drinking them and has leveled out tremendously in terms of temperament.

Not sure what the scientific side of things is but am sure they have a negative affect.

Frustrated to no end....

Hi All!

My daughter is ADD not ADHD and we went to see  a speaker on it, just happened to be Dr. Hallowell! Low and behold as we were finding out things it was dawning on me this is my hubby as well.  He's been diagnosed as clinically depressed because of his anger outbursts but from hearing Dr. Hallowell and reading on Adult ADHD I believe he is depressed and ADHD as well.

 

Don't treat unkindness with kindness

I found this on the internet and thought a few of us could benefit by reading it over and over.  I will.

"Sally's husband was often abusive. One morning, over breakfast, Hank began yelling at her because she was on the phone instead of keeping him company. Later, after Hank went to work, Sally picked up his shirts from the laundry, ran some other errands for him, and decided to cook his favorite dish for dinner.  Do you think Sally did the right thing?

How do I protect my 5 year old?

I do want to cry right now out of frustration, but my main issue that I feel unable to resolve is my childish husbands rollercoaster of an attitude with my daughter.  A little background, he has two children from a previous marriage he is unable to have consistent contact with and hasn't seen in over a year.  Me and my daughter have moved to Australia with him and now are expecting another child due in a month. 

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