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First off, let me say that I'm SO glad to find this site! My husband just keeps telling me that I'm the nagging, crazy wife. It's nice to know that I'm experiencing the same emotions many of you are. My quick story- I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for almost 4. When I met him, he was newly divorced with 2 children (whom he shares 50/50 custody with). Together, him and I have a daughter and son. Depression, anxiety and substance abuse runs in his family.

I never thought that i would be at this junction that i am today. I was diagnosed with severe ADHD back in 8th grade and was on rydelan (spelling?) till sophomore yr. At that time i stopped taking it because i felt like a total zombie and that wasn't me back then. Im 24 now, been married a 1 1/2 and been with my wife 2 1/2 yrs total. i always knew i never really grew out of the ADHD like the doctors said i would..... but i never thought it was as bad as it is now. i did make an appt with the dr and it is at the end of this week.

So like most here, I need to communicate things to my husband that he just can not hear or process. Like most here he gets defensive, angry, interrupts me and eventually manipulates the whole conversation to go in a direction that better suits him. Like some here I have cried til my eyes hurt, screamed til my throat bleeds, I have lost patches of hair due to stress and now suffer from anxiety.....all in an effort to simply be heard, acknowledged and understood.

Having more and more time to think, I'm increasingly seeing how unbalanced my marriage was.  I was giving much more than I was getting in pretty much all areas: emotionally, financially, taking care of responsibilities, household duties, etc.  When I was talking to my friends about how much I love my husband despite all that he's done (or hasn't done), and how I don't mind supporting him financially and doing more than my fair share (which I didn't...

Not sure where to start...My road has been a rough and rocky one. I feel as if I have hit a dead end. I have been married to my husband for almost 12 years now. We married when I was 21 and he was 22. He was diagnosed with ADHD when her was 22 but it was never treated. My marriage consist of verbal, emotional, and a few times physical abuse. Just purchased Melissa's book in the hopes of making sense of all of this. I am so exhausted...depressed and just downright fed up of being the only one putting effort into this relationship.

Hi

I am an ADHD spouse and am working through the ADHD book.

Need to vent and bring up a topic, and wonder if anyone else might be dealing with a similar issue.

My ADHD spouse has been deeply involved in a war-based role playing game on the Iphone and Ipad for the past six months.
He has had game addiction issues in the past, at a desktop computer, and stopped cold turkey a few years ago.

Does anyone else struggle with this?  It's rarely talked about but I feel like it probably happens to other non-ers.  I suppose it's not a priority on the list of concerns as there are even worse things that need to be addressed and so doesn't get talked about often.  But does coping with your partner's ADHD ever end up making it appear like you're crazy, unreasonable, moody, neurotic,  etc.  to the public at large including friends and family?  Those suffering with ADHD often have had a lifetime to develop coping mechanisms to help them mask their disorder at work, around family and friend

I was trying to explain this to a friend.  My husband has decided he wants to leave, and since i've been pretty miserable with him lately, I didn't oppose to the idea.  But still I still have thoughts about getting back together with him, still trying to mend things, still trying to work it out.  My friend thinks I'm nuts.  Ok, nuts isn't the right word, but he couldn't understand why I would want to go back when I've been so miserable.

The link below should be required reading for EVERYONE.  They should teach these things in school.  Love is not hyperfocus that fades.  Love is caring and nurturing and maintaining and being able to commit and embody trust.  The best equation for a good and happy marriage is to marry the right person.  How can you tell who is the right person for you?  I am embarrassed that I did not know these things when I was younger.  My young heart saw too many romance movies.   I guess I mistook all these things for love.

I am new here and stumbled across this site while searching for answers or help for my failing marriage, it seems that my story is quite similar to some here so I figured reaching out is worth a shot, I have nothing to lose! I am sorry in advance if this is long but being new here, I have a story to tell.