I wasn't sure where to turn for advice, or at least the specific advice I seem to need, and since searching "husband with ADD has illogical arguments" on google seems to bring up weird results, I decided to post here.
This seems unsolvable, but probably isn't. I've been married for about 15 years. We have a 12 year old son. He and I were diagnosed with ADD about 4 years ago. Just before this diagnosis, my wife was in therapy (and we had some marriage therapy) to deal with emotional and physical abuse from my wifes childhood. Things got better for a few months.
Hi everyone. I'm recently registered to this site but have been "lurking" and reading the posts for months. I see so much of my home life in each and every one of you, and thus far, just reading your posts has provided me with much comfort when my frustrations are at an all time high. Recently, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough so I thought I might finally take the step to register, post, and get my story out there. I'm sorry if it's long - I'll try to avoid making a "wall of text"!
My ADD husband told me the other day that he will probably be laid off in the next few weeks and I am trying not to completely lose it. He is 55, diagnosed about 5 years ago (though I was sure for much longer) and takes medication. We've been married 28 years and have 3 kids and his job situation was surprisingly stable for most of that time. He had one job for 10 years and another for 15 years--they weren't very challenging but were solid, with benefits, etc. Five years ago he was laid off--I never really got the real reason, but he was out of work for 3+ years and it nearly killed our
Hi, I am new to this site.
At the age of 43 yrs I have only just been diagnosed with ADD. Like so many I always knew there was a problem but didn't understand what.
Hello all. Haven't posted in a bit but have read much here since my initial post.
Wife seems to be turning the "hyperfocus" against me!
I am against meds in general, and my boyfriend of 1 year has been on the same meds since initially diagnosed at age 14. He takes them religiously at the exact same time every single day. I have several concerns about this:
Hi everyone,
I would like to try to help my husband and son get organized. I think that with some more structure in our lives and home, they would function better. My husband struggles with setting up structure because he never feels it is good enough, but he said he would be willing to use a structure that I set up for him in the absence of something perfect!
Hi everyone.
I haven't been posting much since my initial start with this online forum, nor even been reading much.
I can't stand him. (Him being my ADD husband.) We have made zero progress. I am so fed up. Exhausted.
I just want him to be quiet!!!!!
I looked for this forum out of sheer desperation. I am SOOOOOOOOOOO... fed up with my husband. I am not even sure if/how much I care anymore. I didn't get married until my late 40s and had been a single, independent, professional woman until then. I adopted a couple of children along the way on my own and our life was good - not perfect, but comfortable. I married to enhance my life and share it with someone. What I have gotten instead is a whirlwind of chaos, embarrassment and shame in this sham of a marriage. It feels crazy.
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