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My husband and myself click very well together.We have our Friday night out as a rule to keep our relationship healthy.Whatever it takes like dancing,etc.We are very good together.The relationship is very good for maybe 2 weeks then chaos again.I built my hopes on the weekends with him since that's really the only time I have with him because during the week it's very hectic for us,it's kids and work for me and work for him pretty much a routine.Well it's like that for everyone only difference we don't get to see each other very often during the week b/c we are not living together.The reaso

Today is my birthday.  Birthdays are always hard for me, not because they mark me getting older (although I'm not thrilled about that) but because they remind me of how undeserving I feel of attention, not only "my special day" attention but also normal attention.  

My husband (who has ADD) and I have a child with ADD.  My husband and I live in different states.  Whenever I email my husband once in awhile regarding our son's depression or problems with his ADD (which I am dealing with all by myself), a typical response from him is "that's too bad" or "poor thing".  That is all my husband will write back to me.  It happens all the time, so it's not a case of him being busy at work and not having time to respond more thoroughly.  It is so frustrating!!  Makes me feel like why do I even bother telling him.  Please help me understand this typical 

My husband and I have been married for 2 months. We have lived together for 5 and a half years. Our whole relationship has been a rollercoaster. We moved in together quickly after we met, and began facing all of our problems like a whirlwind right as we were saying a swift goodbye to our honeymoon phase. It has been full of adventure and passion as well as an incredible amount of anger, disappointment, and tears.  This is due to my personality as well as his; or rather, it's how they interact with each other.

My partner and I have been together for 19 months.  He has ADHD and I knew this before we got involved.  We didn't have the whirlwind romance, with wildly romantic gestures and hyperfocus so often described.  We just clicked.

I feel like there is this ongoing destructive cycle in my home. My husband is trying his best to do what he thinks is important. I just see all that he leaves undone and get angry at feeling like I have to follow behind him and pick up all the pieces. When I complain, which seems to be more and more lately, he feels like I don't appreciate how hard he works. He does work hard and I do appreciate it, however, I don't believe working hard justifies leaving everything undone at home.

I am new to this site and just can't thank everyone here enough for sharing their struggles which mirror my own. For the first time in years I don't feel so alone and I've found some hope in the idea that I'm not crazy or needy. (Or, as my husband feels, a burden) Finally my struggles have a name:  ADHD and Marriage. 

How I make myself co-dependent:  Me: "Anything I can do to make you more comfortable?"  Maybe not in those words but that is my intention when I say it. In my mind, I want to be loved and supportive and "wifey".

So I tried to be in a really good mood today and woke up early as usual on a Sunday morning to go to the gym and my 5 yrs old was up already at 7am and she wished me a "happy birthday" and then she turned to my husband and said " wish mommy a happy birthday"  and he just mumble it from the other room not bothering to get up from the couch ( yes, again he slept on the living room).

I have been reading lots of posts about feeling alone. And that how bringing up your own feelings just cause a fight. BEEN THERE 20 yrs now. But besides just pulling yourself up by the bootstraps, learning to live with it or just leaving-how do you help your spouse recognize that you are not the bad guy? The intro of I phone and I pad has been the worst thing ever. He gets to talk endlessly about himself but when I grab a minute of conversation, heinstantl has to check something. When I question he just saysIM ADD. I CAN'T JUST SIT HERE DOING NOTHING.