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My supervisor has ADHD.  She's very nice.  I've worked with her a long time.  But I'm struggling with how, if at all, to encourage her to make decisions more quickly.  Sometimes I and my coworkers make the decisions ourselves but there are other things that we lack authority to do.  Any tips?  Thank you.

She's only moved into the next room, but I miss her like she's on the other side of the world.

 

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My ADD boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. He is 21 and I am 18. The first five months were great. I moved in with him (and his dad because he can't keep a job and afford his own), then he started to hang out with his friends and ignore me a lot and lied to me several times and put himself in situations where it looked like he was cheating (although he swears he hasnt) after that. We worked through it and things got better for a month or so. But the past 3-4 months have been awful. He would leave to go drinking and not come home etc. So I moved back in with my mom 3 weeks ago.

After dating who I thought was the love of my life for over a year (and has ADHD, medicated), I have finally decided to end our relationship. This is not a quick decision but instead something I've been pondering for the past several months. His erratic behaviors, mood swings, and lack of motivation have taken such a toll on me in one year - and I can't imagine a lifetime with this person if one year has been so tough.

There have been many times when I understand why my spouse is angry, and once I realize my mistake, I accept responsibility.  There are other times when I think my husband needs to realize that there is a reason I think he is, in certain circumstances.

I recently got engaged to my bf, its been all great till now - he is a successful entrepreneur. he makes me laugh a lott! is very kind and sensitive. kids just love him!

he recently told me about his adhd - yes he is hyper full of energy,  is restless quite a lot , says he just wants nothing more than to be inside a calm body just to be calm for a day ........

after I started reading on adhd on this website & others I was filled with so much negativity. And now I am feeling like clueless.

Sadly, I have found out that although some of his behaviors were caused by the ADHD, underneath it all, he really didn't love me.  It's time to walk away.  I just wish I hadn't wasted so much of myself on him.  

So needless to say, after 3 years of hell I no longer trust my judgement.  I've thought I knew what I was doing hundreds of times.  Turns out I never did.  I had recently decided to leave my ADHDer.  Besides not being there for me emotionally, he has become verbally abusive.  There is good though...many of the worst parts of his life have gotten better...much better.  He is working hard.  He is improving.  Maybe not on us as much as I need, but definitely on himself.  And from what I've read, fixing yourself is often the most important thing in these relationships.  Being able to take care

I ask because I am very confused by my husband's coaching experience.  It has been nothing at all like I've expected it to be, and hubby just seems to go with whatever with no real goals for coaching, which I think makes it harder for everyone.  He has done 2 types of coaching now with 3 individuals and only the middle one made sense to me.

Patience and Timing...  Timing and Patience...

...seem to be the root causes of many of the troubles between my wife and I.

Hyperfocus, inattentiveness, difficulties "reading" people, and a wibbley-wobbley sense of time all combine, so that while I might know what I should be doing, I never quite seem to do any of it at the right time.

An example...