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I feel almost nothing....

I have been married for 13 years.  Frustration has always been a part of the marriage but I could deal with it.  The last 2 years though, I have finally reached my limit.  After a very up and down year my husband finally agreed to marriage counseling.  He has admitted that he is depressed and acknowledges that he shows all signs of being severely ADHD.  We have been to two sessions with a counselor that specializes in couples therapy as well as adult ADHD/ADD.  Hubby did complete the written evaluation the therapist asked him to do (after 7 days of me nagging him to do it) but has yet to ag

Broken promises

I am new to this website as my husband and I are just now becoming aware of his ADHD and its impact on our marriage.  We have been married for 20 years and have had our share of problems, leading us to marriage counseling at least 4 times with inconsistent results.  We now understand why.  Our son has been diagnosed with ADHD and as we are learning more about him we are making connections as to why we have many of the problems we have struggled with.  Among many of my issues is what I always called broken promises or him not being a man of his word.  I feel guilty about this now that I real

Here goes. . . everything. . . what now?

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Hi:

I am one of you.  I have recently become one of those people who just learned the answer to "why".  Why is our marriage so difficult?  Why can't I make him happy any more?  Why does he act so angry all the time?  Why is he so insecure?  There are so many "why questions".  The discovery of the answer to why was wonderful but the moment of understanding and hope almost immediately disappeared.  I'll try to put 30 plus years in a nutshell for you.  My hope is that I will receive some helpful recommendations.

Working with ADHD Boss

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My supervisor has ADHD.  She's very nice.  I've worked with her a long time.  But I'm struggling with how, if at all, to encourage her to make decisions more quickly.  Sometimes I and my coworkers make the decisions ourselves but there are other things that we lack authority to do.  Any tips?  Thank you.

How should I handle this situation?

My ADD boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. He is 21 and I am 18. The first five months were great. I moved in with him (and his dad because he can't keep a job and afford his own), then he started to hang out with his friends and ignore me a lot and lied to me several times and put himself in situations where it looked like he was cheating (although he swears he hasnt) after that. We worked through it and things got better for a month or so. But the past 3-4 months have been awful. He would leave to go drinking and not come home etc. So I moved back in with my mom 3 weeks ago.

Saying Goodbye

After dating who I thought was the love of my life for over a year (and has ADHD, medicated), I have finally decided to end our relationship. This is not a quick decision but instead something I've been pondering for the past several months. His erratic behaviors, mood swings, and lack of motivation have taken such a toll on me in one year - and I can't imagine a lifetime with this person if one year has been so tough.

Is My Perspective Skewed or Was He Unreasonable?

There have been many times when I understand why my spouse is angry, and once I realize my mistake, I accept responsibility.  There are other times when I think my husband needs to realize that there is a reason I think he is, in certain circumstances.

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