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I'm not quite sure what has changed at my house lately, but in the last few weeks my DW's shields have seemingly dropped to a level I've not seen in a long time. It seemed to start about two weeks after the whole "Car Misunderstanding" with me asking her how much weight she had lost. I know this seems like an easy thing to say as a compliment, but weight has been a Hot Topic for so long that I did not ever make a compliment referencing her weight.

I am 55 and my husband is 56.

...or so Hogarth Hughes tells the Iron Giant.

And it's that simple.

No one has to accept you just the way you are...  And that includes yourself.  If you do not like what you've become, you can choose to be better than you are.

There is nothing wrong with choosing to change who are. You are always who you are, even though you might no longer be who you were.  That does not have to be a bad thing.

Be who you want to be.

Pb.

A few years ago my husband was diagnosed with ADHD. He wwent on Straterra, but had little success. Recently, he has been having some major anxiety about work. He is behind and has lots of backlog, but so anxious about it that it makes it hard to accomplish much. I am also seeing what I think are some depression signs (sleepy, tells me that he feels life his life sucks all of the time even though logically he knows it doesn't).

I know that is a foolish way to think of this, but I am trying to be totally honest so I can get help to get over these horrible feelings.  My husband is a good man, he loves our kids and me dearly.  But ever since he was diagnosed with ADHD, I have had a hard time thinking of him as just a regular guy.  He has (in my EXTREMELY limited opinion/knowledge on the topic) very mild issues with ADHD.  Our entire 20 year marriage has been OK, but with me always thinking he was really selfish/childish.  I always had the hope that it would change....but now, his doctor tells us that it doesn't ever

No need for any dramatic story -- there isn't one.  Just accumulated small, undramatic things to the tipping point.  So tired.

But I do want to express gratitude to many of you who have helped me with my questions, listened to my supposed "wisdom" with an open mind, and pointed out things I've ignored about my own attitudes and actions.  This forum has been a necessary part of my journey.  Best wishes.

We saw this movie last night. Don't see it with your ADD DH.  My DH is acting terribly suave and self righteous right now after seeing it.  He is giddy as a lark and on top of the world and I will have to put up with him for a while.  There is a couple who consist of an unhappy, nervous wife married to an impulsive, care free, possibly ADD husband.

I have OCD tendencies (mostly about keeping the house clean and tidy) and my boyfriend has pretty severe ADHD.  We live together, and we fight constantly about how he forgets to clean up after himself, put things away in the proper place, clean his dishes, and other things that involve cleanliness or tidiness.  He's prescribed Adderoll for his ADHD, but he sometimes forgets to take it; either on or off his meds, he still is super forgetful and untidy.  It drives me crazy, but he doesn't see it as a big deal.  At first, I tried to show him how I liked things to be, and asked him to do it tha

It has been wonderful to read so many stories that sound familiar. Does anyone here have experience with this? Here is an example of what happens:

"...There's a big difference between mostly dead and all dead. Mostly dead is slightly alive."

A month and a half ago, before I was diagnosed, DW was ready to move out and get divorced.  Finances prevent us from doing that for the next year, and she moved into the spare bedroom instead.

In the meantime...