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I am dating ADHD boyfriend for 1 year, despite the ups and downs, I love him so much. I always blame it's his ADHD behavior drives me nut. Recently I found I am the clingy one who possibly getting obsessive. I don't know what to do.

Alright,

I'm thoroughly confused!

Ok here's the thing:

My husband and I have been married for 5 yrs. Although for the last 3 we have separated 3 times. We have currently been separated for a yr. My DH was diagnosed last Sept. with ADHD and started taking Ritalin, although he stopped both the counseling and the Ritalin in late November.

I am not surprise that I am here again,,blogging and venting...this is no joke,this is no fun...I know what I have to do but still I can't do it...I am not making any excuses here,but something has to be clearly wrong with me.I know what is acceptable from what is not,and yet I proceed to continue living in a lie with my H..His filthy mouth is the thing that I cannot accept,he has no filter.I know that there are things that would itch some of us to tell our spouses but dare to do so.I have had many things that I could have said to him and make him hate me,but what's the point in trying to m

Because....

This morning my wife unofficially found out that she's getting a rather big promotion, with a commensurate pay raise!

I am super-happy for her, and ultra-proud of her!  This is something she's been working really hard for and it's finally paid off!  The extra money would take the strain off our finances, and would relieve a lot of stress that's been building up in the family over it.  However...

We can all use a kick in the pants.  i will start by giving myself one and share my frustration.  It is clear to me that I must not keep doing what I am doing.  Surviving by using all the coping tools I can but being very unhappy.  My being unhappy is not doing anyone any good. Not for my health, my DH, my children, my friends. I spend too much time trying to manage DH.  I should leave DH and give everyone the chance for love, faith and joy.  I have had the conversations with DH saying we can't go on like this.  I have looked at my options.

This isn't really a conflict around household tasks, but I had no idea where to put it.  Now keep in mind both the events I am talking about were pre-diagnosis so neither of us really had any idea that he wasn't just being messy and disorganized and he just needed to 'try harder'.