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Yes, it's true, my 11 year long stretch of trying to determine and fix my husband's personality disorder has finally come to an end with a conclusion that I'm satisfied with stating is exactly the cause with no further doubt in my mind. 
I must however admit that the answer does not give me any comfort or hope that my marriage will get better, in fact it assures me that unless I do some soul searching of my own it will without doubt only get worse. 

My 8-year-old daughter talking to me  (non-ADHD spouse). "Mom, why are those neighbors so rich? Their mom doesn't work. 

I respond, "their dad has a job. " 

You're having a conversation with someone who has ADD and supposedly loves you.  You're telling them you're going through a very hard time in your life.  They say a few words, but sound bored, detached and show no emotion or interest.  A few minutes later they ask how someone is doing they barely know.  When they ask about this person they sound very interested and concerned, even sweet.  What is up with that? 

I wonder to myself, How does a good marriage keep it together and why doesn't mine feel good to me? I found the following on the internet.

I love my partner. I am madly in love with my partner. But the untreated ADD that she has is toxic. She recognises that her own worklife is affected, and admits that out of everyone in her life I am most hurt by it - but then, she'll take the meds to help her at uni, but not in general to help us out.

As I wrote in others post here, my marriage is improving and everything is going great. The only thing that keep me a kind of frustrated, although I have learned how to deal with it through the years, is that he lost his sex drive since we got married 6 years ago. We tried medications, therapy, doctors, but nothing helped him. I almost did everything to wake up his fire but nothing looks to help. He feels bad about this too, so, he avoid to talk about it. He's charming and shows me his love in many  other ways. We love each other and I have hope that one day he can get back his sex drive.

Hello everyone,

I'd like any advice anyone might have about ANYTHING that will help me.

I have to switch primary care doctors because my PCP has left for a different state.  Long story short:  I'm running out of pills and can't see my new doctor til Friday.

My ADHD husband and I recently agreed to use Melissa Orlov's card index system she presents in her book for dealing with chores. We have weekly meetings to discuss what needs to be done, then write out his chores on cards and place them by order of priority in the front of the box. All he has to do is open the box and take out the front card. 

Are your DH's doing anything about their ADD? Meds, therapy, reading about ADD or exercising? I've been there with some of the behavior's you are describing. I was more of the Shut-Down type than a Get Angry Mean type before diagnosis. The classic event around here was due to my oblivious powers of observation, so if there was something I "Should" have been noticing was bothering my DW or something that she had told me at some point she would like to get done, she would not nag me about it and pretty much just wait for me do notice the issue or start the project she asked me to do.

I have been married for 5 years and my husband is undiagnosed. I would really like to hear from some of you who have seen improvement or progress with your spouses ... I love my husband dearly and am committed to him forever. But I have been realizing lately that I no longer believe him when he says things like, "I am going to get fit." or "I am going to start practicing the guitar." etc etc. I feel like his goals are wonderful and he has great ideas but can't seem to make them stick longer than a week or so. I don't like the fact that I don't believe him anymore ...