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I've long struggled with the feeling that my ADD guy is "not interested" in me, and then struggled with the idea that I need "too much" attention.  He tends to either not pay attention when I'm speaking, or cut me off to do something else (including leaving the room), or interrupt to talk himself.  Not interrupt as in contribute to the "conversation" but to change the subject completely.  About two years ago, I almost entirely stopped answering his question "How was your day?" because I realized he didn't really want an answer.  He's very satisfied with "pretty good" or "busy" or "not bad",

I am 25 years old and have been in a 2.5 year relationship with my partner who has ADHD. He has had it since childhood, and was on medication until he was 21, after which he stopped it as he never liked the side effects and felt that he was too 'serious' on it. Ever since we got together we have fought over his jealousy, insecurity, and quick temper where he will swear at me and explode before cooling down and expecting me to forgive him. I am a doctor and well aware of the ADHD relationship problems, especially after reading this site.

My DH has been on meds for about the past month? strattera. Yes, sometimes, most of the time, he is doing better. He's on 100mg a day with an antIdepressent. Seems to be going ok. 

Here's my dilemma. 

It was pretty brutal there for over a year. Every time I want to forgive, I cry. Diagnosed severe ADHD.

How do I ever trust that person won't come back? 

Lots of hurt...lots. 

I've always loved music...  Way back when I was school and college, I played trumpet and sang in all sorts of bands, choirs, and choruses.  It always helped focus my mind, when I never knew I had ADHD.  It helped me express myself in ways that I could never find adequate words for.  So, allow me to continue the tradition with songs that exemplify, to me, what it's like to live inside my head.

Feel free to join in, should the mood strike you.

I had written this poem awhile ago and until now didn't realize it was describing my feelings in relation to my husband's ADHD.

I intend to make it into a short film. If any are interested in reading the script, please let me know and I will post it. It would make me feel better to know that there are others out there who feel the way I do. Sometimes describing a scene expresses my feelings better than words can.

I need you but you are empty

My husband and I have been married for almost nine years. He was diagnosed as a child with ADHD, but not by a specialist, by his mother, and was never treated. He was treated for depression and Tourette Syndrome. He has been recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and is receiving treatment. Yesterday we met with the specialist and he should be starting his new medication tomorrow. I am hopeful and anxiously awaiting a change. At the clinic I bought the book The ADHD Effect on Marriage. How I wish I had found this book long ago.

​i have been in a relationship with a man with adhd for 8 months.  i have had a few trying moments but i feel that i really love him and am accepting.  my question is that when he travels for work it sometimes feels like he forgets about me and i don't hear from him for a few days.  in this day of technology it seems so easy to just contact me.  is it normal for someone with adhd to just get so busy and stuck in their own head that they just won't contact their partners for a few days??

looking for insight

Do any of the ADHD medications cause trouble when donating blood?

I am currently on low dose (18 mg) Concerta, and have a DRC donation scheduled for next week...  I've been in the habit of donating regularly ever since I was old enough for it, and I'd rather not give it up, if I don't have to.

Pb.

Hello, everyone.

(The Short Story) I've noticed there's a lot of threads in here about ADHD spouses -- diagnosed or not -- who in turn are in denial and unwilling to make changes.  What if you are on the other side of the fence? 

What if you just found out you are ADHD and you desperately want to make changes, but your non-ADHD spouse has already given up before you were ever diagnosed...  before you ever realized what was causing the problems?

I don't know what to do. I wish I had found this forum before I got married.