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Poem written by non-ADHD spouse

I had written this poem awhile ago and until now didn't realize it was describing my feelings in relation to my husband's ADHD.

I intend to make it into a short film. If any are interested in reading the script, please let me know and I will post it. It would make me feel better to know that there are others out there who feel the way I do. Sometimes describing a scene expresses my feelings better than words can.

The Sad Butterfly

 

I need you but you are empty

suffering in silence

My husband and I have been married for almost nine years. He was diagnosed as a child with ADHD, but not by a specialist, by his mother, and was never treated. He was treated for depression and Tourette Syndrome. He has been recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and is receiving treatment. Yesterday we met with the specialist and he should be starting his new medication tomorrow. I am hopeful and anxiously awaiting a change. At the clinic I bought the book The ADHD Effect on Marriage. How I wish I had found this book long ago.

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​i have been in a relationship with a man with adhd for 8 months.  i have had a few trying moments but i feel that i really love him and am accepting.  my question is that when he travels for work it sometimes feels like he forgets about me and i don't hear from him for a few days.  in this day of technology it seems so easy to just contact me.  is it normal for someone with adhd to just get so busy and stuck in their own head that they just won't contact their partners for a few days??

looking for insight

Medication and Donating Blood...

Do any of the ADHD medications cause trouble when donating blood?

I am currently on low dose (18 mg) Concerta, and have a DRC donation scheduled for next week...  I've been in the habit of donating regularly ever since I was old enough for it, and I'd rather not give it up, if I don't have to.

 

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The Other Side Of The Fence...

Hello, everyone.

(The Short Story) I've noticed there's a lot of threads in here about ADHD spouses -- diagnosed or not -- who in turn are in denial and unwilling to make changes.  What if you are on the other side of the fence? 

What if you just found out you are ADHD and you desperately want to make changes, but your non-ADHD spouse has already given up before you were ever diagnosed...  before you ever realized what was causing the problems?

Had A Good Trip Out Of Town

Historically any time my husband and I go out of town is is nothing but a fight fest.

The sad part is the reason we had a good trip is I resolved to not say a word unless it became a life threatening event.

The road rage, yelling at other cars, slipping off the road and driving so fast it's terrifying.

It's odd to me that he thinks all is well.

He's happiest when there is basically zero interaction and he can do exactly what he wants.

Definitely isn't the partnership that most folks consider to be a given in marriage.

Degrees of ADD/ADHD?

I live with my undiagnosed ADD partner and have been feeling really frustrated and resentful.  We have been together for 7+ years and only in year 5 did I finally realize what the problem is when a friend a mine was telling my about his ADD wife.  I started to read more about it and am 100% sure she is ADD even though she's never been diagnosed.  I wondered if there are degrees of ADD?  Does it really matter since any diagnosis of ADD is considered severe enough to be an issue?  I've told her she's ADD.  She doesn't get mad.

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