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okay first a little  backstory.  My husband was diagnosed with ADD-i almost 2 years ago while deployed in Iraq.  When he is off his medicine and it's a "bad day" he's loud, compulsive= he say's things without thinking them through and buys things on a whim or without fore-thought,  he is a sensitive guy even more so without the help of his medicine which is  Ridalin and something else but I forget what it is...he's training with is reserve unit right now and took his medicine with him so I can't read the bottle.  But he takes the medicine for anxiety, depression, and focus.   He was about t

I write this to anyone that may be starting out in their marriage. I am 40 yrs old and have been married for almost 22 yrs. If it wasn't for our 16 yr old daughter, I am sure my wife would be gone by now. I have known that I was ADD since we were married, but only really acknowledged it about 10 yrs ago after seeing the challenges my oldest daughter was facing. I started taking medication and it makes a world of difference with the anger and frustration. However, I have taken a toll on my wife. I moved us around 14 times in the first 11 yrs of marriage.

My 13 year old son was diagnosed with ADD by a psychiatrist, but the doctor doesn't really specialize in children or ADD.  His knowledge of medications for kids seemed very limited. 

Do I let my son be treated by his pediatrician for his ADD or is there a different type of specialist I should be looking for?

I've been dating my 50 year old, ADD, boyfriend for over a year.  At the beginning he completely hyper focused on me with poetry, romantic evenings, compliments, etc.  It was heaven.

Well...I know now that he still loves me, even though I don't get the poems anymore or the romantic attention.

Hi.  My husband has ADD or ADHD (he says its the former, but I think it might be the latter, because he cannot keep his hands or feet still when he's sitting down).  He has struggled with depression since he was a teenager but was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD just a few years ago.  He is on meds.  He loves them.  Not that he overindulges, but he's really into the pharmaceutical approach, trying this, trying that, saving meds from old prescriptions, taking nonprescription things (for example, melatonin and fish oil capsules).  I think this reflects his scientific training. 

Hello.  I so appreciate this forum.  Now more than ever.  My husband of almost 19 years does not have ADD, I do.  (Quick funny story: about 18 years ago I tuned into an Oprah show about adult ADD.  I was convinced my husband had this.  But as I watched I realized they were describing everything about me.)  Anyway... H (husband) and I have been separated since 9/10 (but had been living in the same house up until 8/11).  We have 3 kids.  Our oldest will be 18 in a couple of weeks.  He has ADD + mood disorder (mostly depression) + asperger trait's.

I'am a non-ADD/ADHD spouse of an ADD-I(inattentive)...  I feel it's more ADHD though...but that's not what I'm asking about. 

My question, another post mentioned having a "low T" test and taking testasterone shots.   I was interested in learning more about this as I heard that a man with low testasterone can be misdiagnosed or treated for his ADHD/ADD as the main problem or contributing problem his low testasterone levels....which have a similar affect as ADD.

Can anyone else tell me more about this Low Testasterone levels and the "low T test"?

After 30+ years of marriage, raising a family essentially as a single parent, while completing college & working up to 3 part time jobs, I can no longer find the strength to continue. My spouse was diagnoised with ADD/Impulsivity/Inattentiveness. His behavior also changes, and he becomes very mean verbally when he drinks any alcohol at all. For most of the past 30 years I took total care of the house etc, as he was "too busy, too stressed at work " to come home for more than  to sleep eat & go back to work.

For those who want to skip the novel below which is specific to our case, what are your feelings about medication holidays or taking meds on an 'as needed' basis.  Please give me the reason behind your answer because we need to come joint accord with this issue between ADD hubby, I, and his psychiatrist & psychologist.

So I am the ADHD spouse. I'm trying so hard to make a lasting change in this relationship. My wife has mentioned about 14 different categories where change needs to happen. I am trying to focus my efforts in as many different areas I can. However, I have realized I can't change 14 things at once. I am trying to change one or maybe two things at a time. Mainly my impulse control, emotional volatility. My spouse does not see a change. I've asked her if she notices a change, most of the time its "I don't know". This makes it very difficult to measure how things are. This has me lost.