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Occasionally, I see comments from people along the lines of, "Why did you get married to this person if he has all these problems?" or "Why are you still married to this person?" or "How could you even think of splitting with someone who has a disability?"

I've thought about these a lot and wanted to share some of my answers.  I'd love it if other people would offer their thoughts, too.

1) I was young and stupid.

2) I liked him and thought he would be a good provider.

My partner seems to think and feels that pot is the only thing that will help him relax at night and does not want to take any meds. Can anyone advise on the risks of an ADD smoking pot once a day? I am really worried about it and when talked to him to suggest that he gets medication instead he says that the medication is worse for his health?

I am the non-ADHD husband.  My wife has recently been diagnosed with ADHD.  We have been married for 17 years and I have known there have been issues for a while.  I will not delve into them fully here.  But it would seem like since my wife's diagnosis she has used it like a shield to blame her bad behavior on.  So, in short, she seems to have advocated all personal responsibility for her actions.  If she know's the difference between right and wrong, why does she continue to do wrong?

My husband and I have a wonderful, caring therapist with a doctoral degree who doesn't think our marriage issues are CAUSED by my husband's ADHD. He thinks his ADHD exacerbates the problems. He actually said that my husbands ADHD would enable him to hyper focus on me when I try to talk to him about a problem. I was stunned! I told him that in all the reading and research and all the people I've met through this forum, not one ever said that their husband's ADHD made them more likely to pay attention to them.

Ive been marry for 11 years have two little girls and a 19 year old from a previous marriage all three children have ADHD found out I was on retilin when I was you could I still have ADHD because I get upset or angrey easly.

Hi everyone: This Saturday, my H and I will be visiting our ADHD coach to have a very serious and pivitol session regarding where to go in our marriage. I was hoping someone might be able to answer a question about ADHD and “connection”. My husband, was doing better for awhile and now, in the last year has become even more detached from our 6 yr old daughter and me. He spends almost every night either working on his RC cars, playing on his phone in bed or attached to a gaming controller in our basement playing video games. It’s so difficult to even get a 10 min conversation with him.

Hi this is my first post.

My wife has been researching ADHD in adults for the past year when she saw that I scores high on every question in an ADHD test. since that year has passed she has looked into iot more.

On Friday we had a massive row and I walked out for half an hour ans she asked me to look on this web site, within and hour I had downloaded the book and started reading it.

I have posted on this topic before but wanted to repost to see if anyone else had anything to say on this.  My husband works in another state than me and our 21 yr old son.  My son has had a lot of difficulty with ADD and depression and still struggles today.  My husband seems to never call him to see how he is doing.  Months can go by and sometimes after that all he gets is a text.  My husband calls others once in awhile in his family who he isn't close to so why doesn't it dawn on him to call his son.  I cannot understand it!!  It still bothers me so much and makes me wonder who the heck

I am really struggling tonight...

Hello everyone,

We recently discovered that my husband has ADHD (i believe it to be advance however he can only admit to it being mild). I feel like I have to be there for him and in the nearly 7 years of marriage emotionally he's never there for me.