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Sorry, that's the title of a song I like.   But that's my question.  How do you deal with lonely?  We both work long hours but when are home, we aren't home together.  He'd rather send me an email from his computer (downstairs) to me at my computer (upstairs) than talk to me in person.  I suggest sharing a glass of wine and 15 minutes of conversation.  He says sure, and wanders away with his glass after 5 minutes.  I prepare dinner and he turns on the television while we're eating.  I suggest a project to work together on, and he agrees, disappearing to "get something" and never comes back.

I have been married for a year, to a man I have been dating for about 7.5 years, and yes I did notice some things before we were marriage. But since the marriage they have become more noticeable. During our dating years, unless we went on vacation our visits were normally 1-3 times per week. We did not always stay over night or spend the full day, but their was always a question in my head... Why do you have to do that, and why now? I noticed how impulsive he was but when I questioned the why's he would always say, I just gotta do it now.

My husband of 11 yrs was recently diagnosed with "severe ADD".  He got the diagnosis after our son was diagnosed.  The diagnosis came in the midst of martial problems...I found out months earlier that my husband was having an affair with a so called good friend of mine(to my knowledge it is still ongoing).  Knowing he has ADD explains alot of his behaviors, but does not excuse them.  I have been very willing to work on our marriage, but after a year he still has not admitted that the affair was wrong. He has refused to move out. He shows no remorse nor regret.  He still blames me for the af

Hello, everybody!

 Long story short: I finally had enough and made extensive plans to break up with and kick out my beloved boyfriend, eta in one week. 

Last night he comes home, ON TIME, takes me out to dinner [ never happens! ] and tells me he is juuuust at the top of the hump with crazy work schedule, and later leaves me a note saying how close he is and lists the things he wants us to do together. 

First off, I'm just so happy to have found this forum- until yesterday i thought i was the only wife to have a husband who isn't interested in sex-

I am my husbands third wife and he's only 32- his first wife told him to stop taking his meds and he listened- I didn't even know what adhd was until yesterday- Like so many people here I feel like a roommate/parent  in this relationship My husband and I have sex maybe once every two months-

I'm glad that I have found this site. I am marred to a man,even though he has not been diagnosed ADHA, he is. We have been married 8 months and it has been a steady down hill race since we said I do. He made me feel like I was his whole world when we were dating. Listen to me, wanted to be with me, hold me, touch me, helped here a the house when I had to work late. Was here for me when I had a nervous breakdown. So supportive, sweet, funny, never a mean word. OH how I loved him and was sure of his love

I recently resolved to, at the start of each day (I look myself in the mirror while brushing my teeth) tell myself "I resolve to find one opportunity today to give my guy a little love at the moment I don't want to." 

Hello Everyone,

First, I just want to say "thank you" to everyone who has responded to my posts on other topics.  Even if I didn't have time to respond to everyone, please know that you all are helping me a lot!  No one on the "outside" understands what it is like to be in an ADHD marriage (or at least no one I know).  I am more grateful than you'll ever know :).

Hello...

I'm relatively new to this whole thing.... I'm non-ADD, spouse is ADD since a young age.... I'm just finding out about it.   We have been together 6 years, married 3.  Been in marriage counseling as well as separate counseling.  I'm on my way to being medicated for depression, SO is on way to talk to a ADHD specialist.  All very positive things. 

Had a brief vacation w kids and spouse that ended up pleasant- tho w a rocky start. Spouse had a la adhd moment in that he did not pack but worked up til last second and then became /verbally abuse when pushed (we have to leave NOW!). But it pulled together and we had some fun. I asked at a better moment that we (kids and I) seek more stability- that if he needs to go out twice a week to decompress (yes, get drunk- he is alcoholic ImHO) then please be home the other three nights early enough so we can function better w all that needs to be done. We hugged, he said he would try.