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Hi all. This is my first post, although I've been reading through a lot on this website for the last month. I have been dating a truly wonderful guy for the last 4 months. He told me right away that he has ADD and is working with a behavioral therapist. He seems very sincere about the therapeutic work he's doing. He's 51 and I'm 50. We're both divorced with kids the same age (who adore each other), and we're both busy professionals fairly wrapped up in our careers.

I have been married for 14 years to adhd spouse. I am at my wits end... I am tired. So tired of being barked at, not listened to, and expected to be the one that "understands" and lets it go. We have two beautiful children and we are fighting more and more infront of them. Ugh, i cant seem to let it go. I am sick of the immaturity, the not hearing anything, and just childish thinking or behavior. He is 47, we went on vacation last week and he couldnt even pull himself together to make our trip non confrontational. Hes mad and i am mad.

I don't know if there is deeper trouble in my marriage or if there's something I'm not seeing because of my ADD. I'm a wife and stay at home mom to a 3.5 year old son, take Adderall daily for several years, have many of the usual issues: high intelligence coupled with low achievement, trying really hard yet not always managing. I developed a number of coping skills beginning in childhood that allow me to be quite competent, and I've worked hard at managing my emotions, although I've never been the dramatic type.

I am new to this forum.  I am a 34 year old mother of 3 and I think I have ADD.  I remember as a child getting "tested" because of some of the things I did accademically in school.  I also know that growing up I had some problems understanding social cues and in college I needed to go to each professor after I was given an assignment to make sure I understood what was being asked of me (I did this after I completed one to many assignments wrong).  I was able to make accommodation for all of my "issues" until I started to have to take care of my kids.  Don't get me wrong I love being a mom

I am at my wits end.  I have been reading melissa's blog for 2 days now...things are so clear to me

1/2 our roof needs replacing...becuase of damage and the insurance will cover it...he wants to replace the other half, but we have no financial head space to do it...I am currently in charge and he knows the state of our finances.

DH: it will help us sell in 3 years

I am married to a man with ADHD, he has had his diagnosis for 3 years and is on meds. We also have a 6 year old son with ADHD, also on meds. I have just read the book ADHD and marriage, experienced a lot of "moment of clarity" these past few weeks while reading. Not just about my husband but also how my own behavior has contributed to where we are today. Our relationship has been a rollercoaster, constant ups and downs, doing better when I chose to ignore him and kind of doing my own thing, taking care and providing for our kids etc.

YYYZ? Ellamenno? Someone?

I'm seeing instances of procrastination that are driving me nuts! I'm looking to understand it. I don't think there is a way to fix it, if he's not interested.

Two examples in the last weekend:

We all have ADHD, mine most severe. I have learned to cope with my symptoms with strategies I've read about and ones I have developed on my own (out of necessity). I do not want to live in chaos any longer. I do not want to wake up every morning to chaos and yelling. I am tired of doing all the housework and cleaning up after 8, yes 8 dogs that my wife impulsively decided to "foster". I'm going nuts trying to get my family to buy into a schedule for cleaning (our house is w wreck, so much that the kids do not want to bring anyone over.

Hi everyone,

I have been reading this site for a while now and am amazed at how much I see not only my girlfriend but myself in these posts. 

I have posted previously.  My marriage appears to be past the point of return; my wife has just canceled our last marriage counseling session.  I am very sad but resigned.  I am going to attempt follow Melissa's path, as she presented in her book, by working on my best self rather than pining over my failing relationship.  My wife and I have many issues to work out: financial and legal (bankruptcy and house) and children (2 boys, 7 and 5).  We have discussed separation and dissolution.  Any advice for what to do next or how to start?  

Rob H