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Don't hint, don't beat around the bush.  We might be too distracted to read between the lines.    Yes those weeds are ugly, yes that paperwork needs doing... what, you meant you wanted me to do it?

Just tell us.  If it seems like we don't get it, we don't.  You can say it should've been obvious.  Maybe it would be to a normal person.  But what do either of us get out of that?  Do you want me to feel like an idiot for not seeing the obvious...

Hi!  Like the subject says, I'm new to this board, and currently at a loss for what to do in my marriage.  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago and is on meds.  We've been married for 3.5 years now, and he's been on medication the entire time, for a variety of things (depression, ED, now ADHD).  I'm in the military and am currently wrapping up my second deployment.  The first one went horribly - he didn't have a job where we lived, had no friends, stopped going to church, and basically withdrew from the world and spent every waking moment on a computer game.  He came very clo

I am a 42 year old man with ADHD who is married to his polar opposite- a brilliant, multi-tasking goddess, who can use a defibrillator on a patient in cardiac arrest with one hand, do an emergency traych with the other hand, and bark out orders to the rest of the ER as they receive trauma patients from a seven car pile up in the middle of winter, all while calling me at home to remind me to send in the mortgage payment, and to remind our four children that she loves them, and not to forget to do their homework.

I have talked about how we may be unable to stay in our home because my husband lost his job. I got a part-time job but I'm not sure how much work I'm going to get from that, and he refuses to admit there is a problem. He also refuses to pack or get ready in any way to move out, if we can't make rent.

Me and my husband have been married a year and a half.  I have 2 children and he has two..

OMG!!!  I am so angry right now I could scream...if I wasn't at work.  My husband decided to quit smoking, which I totally support.  He only started smoking again a month ago so its not like its been for 20 years or something (gotta love friends that encourage bad habits).  He knows that we don't have the money for him to smoke and to take our vacation in a week, he has spent almost half of what I had saved smoking. So yesterday hes going on and on about how he isn't even craving a cigarette and how well hes doing, for which I was supportive and happy.  Fast forward to this morning and when

I had know about it, in a manner of speaking, for not that long...and only suspected for about 5 months, and so finally worked up the nerve to confront her, as I felt that she might just up and leave. 

Hi everyone,

I am 37, partner to someone who I think has ADD, and mom to 2 great kids.

I think he has ADD because he shows all the signs of it, even jokes about it sometimes, but never has gotten it checked out.  Going to a doctor isn't on his radar, unless it's to the ER for something and even then...

Hi everyone!  I have to say I feel incredibly lucky to have found this site, its like someone has been sitting in my house for the last 4 years taking notes!!  A little background about us, my husband and I have been together 5 years (4 kids between the two of us but none together) and married for 3....the first year was great and it only went downhill from there.  He really did become a different person and nothing I said could make him see that...he was angry, hostile and always ready for a fight.  Mix that with addictions, cheating (the most recent was in June of this year) and him decid

I haven’t posted to this site in a very long time. I am the non-adhd spouse in my marriage. I The long and short of it is that I married a person, who at the time and unbeknownst to me, was hyper focusing on me. I thought that I was joining my life to a man who was engaging and funny and thought that the moon and sun rose and set on me. This was very appealing to me because I am co-dependent and insecure. The constant attention, reassurance and emotional overload was JUST what I’d always dreamed of.