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Hi all, am using this forum to try to get rid of my sadness tonight. Not really looking for a great epiphany because... Well just because. I avoid saying to much details about my personal life here because it is so public but those who have read my posts know Ive had some rough times w my spouse. And yet we have kept together and are still married- tho separated for several months. He says he is still in the relationship but what he says and does sometimes seem like two very different things. I am alone A LOT w the kids and the anxiety and loneliness are brutal.

Tonight, I had a mild anxiety attack about having a second child.  (TTC) 

I love kids. It just that two years ago today I was being cut open in an emergency C section after a difficult and traumatic preterm labor, pre-ceeded by a bout of preeclampsia.

The anniversary of my grandfather's death was this week. (The grief of which sent me into my first ever major depressive episode).

I was in a minor car accident tonight.

So some big triggers, right?  At least in combination.

Tried to talk my ADHD spouse about it. 

My ADHD husband usually goes to sleep around 2:00 to 3:00 am, yet continually complains about how tired he is. He just will NOT go to bed earlier, and says that he is "not tired", which is not true. He even falls asleep driving (arrrgh).

I am a SAHM so I do the most of the "spending" in our household.  What I mean by that is that I buy the groceries, school supplies, kids clothes, etc.  Anything we need, I make it happen, which means I do the spending. 

 

Greetings all –

1. I am a stay at home mom to our two kids and have no means of providing for ourselves at the moment.

2. It feels wrong to leave my DH who is "broken."

Does that make sense?

#1 scares the daylights out of me.  If I choose to leave, I do have a place to go (live with friends) but I can't be a freeloader forever.  I would have to get recertified in my field in order to go back to work and I don't know how much time or money that might take.  I've been a stay at home mom for 7 years and stupidly let my certification lapse.

My husband came home from work and I went to run an errand in his car. (Both our names are on it, but he usually drives it.) When I got home I asked him "So how long has your windshield been broken and how come you didn't tell me?" He did not believe me that his windshield was broken and had to go out and look at it. He has no idea how long it's been broken. This is a man who drives hundreds of mile s a week. I was last in the car Saturday and it wasn't broken then.

I just found this site and I have read several post from the spouses of men with ADD. My wife is also one of the very frustrated and I am afraid ready to give up. For those of you that do not have or understand what an ADD person goes through on a daily basis, I envy you. You are the normal ones, you keep your focus, you finish what you start, and most of all you don't hurt the people you love the most. I, on the other hand, do get distracted, cannot finish anything I start to save my life.

Hello,