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  I have been burned out for over 3 years, and don't know WHERE to begin to help myself get better. We had almost 24 undiagnosed years which were chaotic and fast paced due to the hyperactivity, and emotional upheavals because of all the miscommunication and lack of sensitivity, touch, love, etc., then the loss of friends and jobs, with his 3 year affair on top of it all. It burned me out completely, and I feel guilty because I don't have (whatever it is) to get back up and start again. I hate what I see in the mirror and I hate how I feel, and I do want to change, but I'm lost.

I don't know where to start.   I feel like the weight is crushing me.  No one knows, because I keep it all together - I feel like I have to hide everything and fix everything.  I'm scared to walk away - what if it is fixable, and I know that he does really love me....could I be making a huge mistake?  I know that it would devastate him (not a reason to stay, but again, guilty me). 

my boyfriend of a year has all of the qualities i mentioned above.

he also is very focused on me to a point it drives me crazy.

too much of anything is not good..

he is disorganized, messy, his finances in the past were

in total disarray too.

he starts things..doesnt finish them...even at times forgets

where he parks his car!

at night im ready to sleep..he is awake..and watching tv ..loud..

even though he seems tired..he seems sort of wired...or overtired?

I have only been with my ADHD boyfriend for a little over a year now. He has been diagnosed and prescribed medication ever since kindergarten, and to my knowledge his symptoms have not gotten any better with age, although neither have his methods for coping with the negative effects his ADHD has on his life.

I'm a new kid here. I figured out that I have ADHD about 9 months ago. I have found a doctor, am on Adderall (little if any effect yet), started a support group for adults since there was only a parents group. I'm 60+ years old. So I have lived for 60+years with untreated ADHD and the H is significant.

We won't be getting married, living together, or sharing finances, ever, so leave that out. I am almost 40, a professional, and I am not cut out for being a spouse. Decades of independence from a controlling father, decades of doing what I want and being happy, and a short marriage let me see that. Anyhow, I love my bf, he is my companion, but I only have one day off a week and I see making plans for me as controlling, whereas he sees it as romantic, spontaneous, loving, fun. Typical unmedicated ADHD. Acts before thinking. I am talking booking things that cost money.

I am a woman who has been in a 3 year relationship with someone who is essentially unavailable to devote time to building our relationship because he has so many problems and his life is chaos.  We love each other, he is an incredibly attractive, sweet and big-hearted guy.  I looked into ADHD because as I described him to my therapist, she suggested that he may have ADD/ADHD.  He fits the bill according to my research.