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Is this a common trait amongst people w/ ADD?

I notice it with my s/o.  First it was through addictions: phone, internet, video games.  Now he physically wants to run away from his life.  To another state.  Why do they do this?  Running won't solve problems.  I should just let him go, right?  I am starting to suspect he's living a double life. 

Please share any similar experiences you have. 

Hi,

My husband was diagnosed with ADD as a child.  I strongly suspect he suffers from Adult ADD or ADHD.  He tells me his mind goes a million miles a minute, and I sense he is out of control.

He's been suffering from severe depression.  We have had major problems lately; spent some time apart.  It seems like things were improving.  However, he still has unresolved issues and a lot of resentment towards me.

Counseling has been great, but it's opened up deep wounds.  Some of the things that have surfaced I couldn't even connect the dots and wasn't aware of.  I feel like I've been duped, mislead, deceived by my ADHD husband.  I feel the man he was when we dated is NOT who he really was/is.  I realize that he did not do this intentionally and it was the hyperfocused phase and the illness, but I feel terrible, I feel mad, I feel like I gave up myself.

Hi. My husband and I started seeing a marriage counselor a couple of weeks ago do to a lack of trust with him that stems from a opiate addiction. He has been clean for almost 2 years now but our problems were continuing to go up. During our first session the counselor said my husband had add. I started reading and researching alot on adult add and have learned alot and we both are starting to learn new ways of being together. We have been married almost 13 years. Our son is 12 and was dx with adhd at 6. My daughter is 10 and was dx with autism at age 3.

Dear Forum,

Does anyone else have a weird sense of humor? A sense of humor that is different than most? Does your mind race beyond the initial reference and go an extra nine yards to a destination not considered by most?

Have you discovered this in your daily lives?

How do you deal? Do you remain quiet or try to fit in?

-Andrew

Hi, I live in in Stamford CT and need a marriage therapist that specializes in ADHD and exactly what you do. CT or NYC would be great. Kindly provide a list if you have one.

Hi.  My husband and I started seeing a marriage counselor a couple of weeks ago do to a lack of trust with him that stems from a opiate addiction.  He has been clean for almost 2 years now but our problems were continuing to go up.  During our first session the counselor said my husband had add.  I started reading and researching alot on adult add and have learned alot and we both are starting to learn new ways of being together.  We have been married almost 13 years.  Our son is 12 and was dx with adhd at 6.  My daughter is 10 and was dx with autism at age 3.  I am feeling very guilty be

Hello. I am brand new to this site, but have had one of those "a-ha" moments after reading these posts. I am engaged to a man (well, sort of engaged- we've broken it off twice due to "moods") whom I believe to be ADHD. He has not been diagnosed, and I'm not sure if he really can see that he might have it. But I see so many of the patterns mentioned here in him. His son is also very hyperactive, as well as his nephew, and his whole family has addiction problems (especially to games and the computer). Here are the things I have seen in him:

This time of year my ADHD DH is in the midst of harvest/hunting and is typically gone for at least a month.  I usually can't wait until he's gone so I can clean the house, get things in order around the house, and in general - just relax.  This year for some reason has been very different (yet the same) from the previous years.  I don't know if it is me or what so I'm looking at you guys for advice.

"I can't get my partner to listen to me and understand things from my point of view."
"If my partner only understood things through my eyes, he or she would then change and do things my way."

Exactly how I feel - though I know it's not true in reality that someone will change if they realize your point of view on certain things.