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I finally got the courage to give my nonADD spouse. My request was for her to just read the first 30 pages. . . Not the whole book unless she wants to. . .and tell me what she thinks. In the meanwhile, I was hoping to add the book to my iPad, but I can't find it. ARGH! So my question follows my title.

 My husband is a great guy. His doctor is evaluating him for ADD. One problem we face is that he hyper focuses on his own needs, but dismisses mine and the children's when it comes to his time. He isn't as bad about housework, but I believe it is because of his history. It is my belief that he is overly-organized as a way of dealing with his ADD. For instance, I am a terrible housekeeper. I mean my house is not filthy by any means, but it tends to be a little cluttered. I am bad to leave the laundry in a pile after it leaves the dryer.

I'm curious and thought it might be helpful to start a poll blog to provide visibility regarding the demographics of the Non-Add Spouse population posting on this Website?

Here's my demographic

Age: 47

Gender: Female

Number of years married to ADD Spouse: 18

Number of children: 6 (blended family)

Number of years since discovery of your Spouse's ADD symptoms: 5 

Separated or divorced?: Yes

If yes, how long have you been separated/divorced: 6 months  

Which spouse initiated the Separation/divorce? Wife

hey everyone,

 

i really appreciate this website a lot.

 

my girlfriend has adhd.  knowing that she has it helps deal with the inevitable issues surrounding it, but sometimes it is depressing and irritating to experience it, despite my knowledge that her brain has trouble allocating attention.

This is the second marriage for both of us.  He is 51, with 3 grown kids, I am 31 with 3 school age children that spend every- other week with me.

The dynamic that has been developing over this first year of our marriage varies; we seem to trade off in the typical non-ADHD/ ADHD roles. He was diagnosed when he was 44, and single.  He is medicated, completed almost 2 years of therapy, is high functioning, and has had the same job for 8 years.

With apologies to those whose marriages are in real trouble....

My husband is a very sweet man. He takes his meds faithfully, isn't addicted or a wild overspender or anything. But the fact of living with his ADD drives us both nuts. I'm looking for hints on dealing with these things.

One problem is the sheer cost of having ADD. Meds and a psychiatrist are expensive even if you have insurance. We stay broke all the time even though we do not spend frivolously.

Holy cow, what a night I've had!  I have been dealing with a husband who has all the classic signs of ADHD (coupled with co-dependency issues - great combination!) and we've had a rocky relationship for most of the 4 years that we've been together.  At first I thought it was mainly due to our disagreements about how he treated me when it came to situations with his kids from his first marriage, but I'm seeing now that a lot of his behavior is consistent with someone with ADHD.  Anyway...we've had a really rough road of it since we got married 2 years ago and he has done some truly unforgi

I know I have ADD, have been diagnosed with it, but more importantly have recognized the symptoms from early childhood. I have tried several medications over the years, but for various reasons haven't followed through on them.

Hi, My partner has ADD, we have 2 small children together. Things are bad, all the usual stuff really and now I'm at breaking point and feel like theres something screaming inside me "RUN!" But as I said we have 2 children and just "running" is not an option. A couple of weeks ago I ended our relationship but he literally wouldn't accept it.

It has finally come to an end.  I had to get him to leave last night.  It all started because I made the comment that I wished he would have turned the ice maker on when he had mixed himself a drink so that we would have ice now.  And then he goes on to say that he doesn't know how to turn it on or off or if it is even on or off and I had to explain to him that if the green light is on,  it's on and if it's off, it's off.  Then he asked me why it was off and I had to explain that if you did not turn it off then the freezer would be overflowing with ice and that I would expect that anyone wo